We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, for we see in your request a spirit of bitterness, unforgiveness, and even vengeance—things that grieve the Holy Spirit and stand in direct opposition to the love and grace of our Savior, Jesus Christ. The Scriptures warn us in Ephesians 4:31-32, *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."* Your words reveal a heart that is not yet surrendered to the peace and forgiveness that Christ offers, and we must lovingly but firmly address this.
First, we must ask: where is Jesus in this prayer? There is no mention of His name, no appeal to His authority, and no acknowledgment that it is only through Him that we can approach the Father. Jesus Himself declared in John 14:6, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."* Without invoking His name, your words carry no spiritual power or alignment with God’s will. We urge you to repent of this oversight, for there is no other name under heaven by which we are saved (Acts 4:12). If you do not yet know Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we implore you to turn to Him today, confessing your sins and believing in His death and resurrection for your salvation. Without this foundation, your prayers cannot please God.
Now, let us address the content of your request. You speak of wanting someone to receive "the truth" and "happiness," yet you also express a desire for them to find a "younger lover" and a "new family." If this is a reference to a former spouse or someone still bound in marriage, this is a dangerous and ungodly wish. Marriage is a covenant before God, and He hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). If this person is married, praying for them to find a new romantic relationship outside of their marriage is to pray for adultery—a sin that God explicitly condemns (Exodus 20:14, Hebrews 13:4). If they are divorced, the Bible permits remarriage only under specific circumstances (Matthew 19:9), and even then, it should be pursued with repentance, wisdom, and a heart seeking God’s will—not human desire.
Your prayer also reveals a desire for retribution: *"I pray my *** gets what she deserves and put in life!"* Friend, this is not the heart of Christ. Romans 12:19 commands, *"Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, ‘Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.’"* When we harbor bitterness or wish harm upon others, we place ourselves in the position of judge—a role that belongs to God alone. Instead, Jesus calls us to love our enemies, bless those who curse us, and pray for those who mistreat us (Matthew 5:44). This is not optional for the believer; it is a command.
We must also address the language you’ve used. The symbols replacing a word suggest you are referring to someone with contempt, perhaps even using profanity in your heart. Colossians 3:8 tells us, *"But now you also put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and shameful speaking out of your mouth."* Our words should build up, not tear down. If you are struggling with anger or resentment, we urge you to bring this before the Lord in repentance. Unforgiveness is a poison that harms *you* far more than the person you resent. Jesus warned in Matthew 6:15, *"But if you don’t forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."*
Let us now turn to prayer—not as you have framed it, but as the Lord would have us pray. We will lift up your heart, this situation, and all involved to the throne of grace, asking God to work His will, which is always good, pleasing, and perfect (Romans 12:2).
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**Prayer:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We lift up this dear one who has shared their heart with us, and we ask that You would convict them by Your Holy Spirit of the bitterness, anger, and unforgiveness that has taken root. Lord, soften their heart and remind them that You are a God of justice, but also of mercy. Help them to release this burden of resentment, for it is too heavy for them to carry. Teach them to forgive as You have forgiven them in Christ.
Father, we also lift up the individuals mentioned in this request. If there is a marriage involved, we pray for reconciliation where it aligns with Your will, or for repentance and healing where sin has broken what You intended to be whole. Lord, guard their hearts from the snares of the enemy, who seeks to destroy families and relationships. If there is any thought of pursuing relationships outside of Your design, we rebuke that spirit in the name of Jesus and ask that You would redirect their steps to righteousness.
For anyone involved who does not know You, Lord, we pray that they would encounter the truth of the Gospel—the truth that Jesus Christ came to save sinners, to heal the brokenhearted, and to set the captives free. May they turn from their sins and place their faith in Him alone.
Father, we ask that You would fill this dear one with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding. Replace their anger with Your love, their bitterness with Your joy, and their desire for revenge with a heart that seeks Your kingdom first. Remind them that You see all things and that You will make all things right in Your perfect timing.
We pray all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen.
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We encourage you to meditate on the following Scriptures and ask the Lord to renew your mind and heart:
- *"Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus."* (Philippians 4:6-7)
- *"Beloved, don’t avenge yourselves, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, ‘Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.’"* (Romans 12:19)
- *"But I tell you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat you and persecute you."* (Matthew 5:44)
If you are struggling with forgiveness, we urge you to seek counsel from a mature believer or pastor who can walk with you through this process. The Lord desires to set you free from this burden, but it requires surrender on your part. Will you trust Him with your pain? Will you choose to obey His Word, even when it is difficult? We are praying for you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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