We hear your deep distress and the urgency of your plea for peace in your family, especially during this season that should be marked by love and unity. The conflict between your daughter and your ex is weighing heavily on your heart, and we stand with you in fervent prayer, seeking God’s intervention and restoration.
First, we must address the spiritual warfare at hand. The Bible makes it clear that our battle is not against flesh and blood, but against spiritual forces of wickedness (Ephesians 6:12). The loud arguments and unreasonable demands you describe are indeed signs of a spiritual attack, and we take authority over these forces in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. We rebuke every demonic influence that seeks to sow discord, strife, and division in your family. We command these spirits to flee in Jesus’ name, for they have no power over those who are covered by the blood of Christ. As it is written, "Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you" (James 4:7). We declare that the peace of Christ, which surpasses all understanding, will guard the hearts and minds of your daughter and your ex (Philippians 4:7).
We also lift up your daughter and your ex before the Lord, asking that He soften their hearts and bring them to a place of humility and reconciliation. The unreasonable demands for expensive holidays may stem from deeper issues—perhaps unmet emotional needs, pride, or even worldly influences. We pray that God would reveal to them the emptiness of materialism and the true joy that comes from seeking Him first (Matthew 6:33). May they find contentment in Christ alone and turn away from any spirit of greed or entitlement. We ask that God grant them wisdom and self-control, that they may communicate with kindness and patience, as Scripture instructs: "Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one" (Colossians 4:6).
Father, we ask that You intervene in this situation *right now*. Calm the storm of strife and replace it with Your peace. Let Your presence fill their hearts and minds, so that they may speak to one another with gentleness and respect. We pray that any bitterness, anger, or resentment would be uprooted and replaced with forgiveness and love, as You have commanded us to "be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you" (Ephesians 4:32). Lord, we ask that You would heal any wounds in their relationship and restore harmony, not just for the holidays, but for all the days to come.
We also want to gently remind you, dear sister or brother in Christ, that while we take authority over the spiritual forces at work, we must also examine our own hearts and actions. Are there ways in which we may have contributed to the tension, even unintentionally? Let us humble ourselves before God and ask Him to show us if there are steps we need to take to promote peace. As it is written, "If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men" (Romans 12:18). We encourage you to continue praying for your daughter and your ex, not just for their behavior to change, but for their hearts to be transformed by the love of Christ.
Lord, we declare that Your will be done in this family. We ask that You would draw each of them closer to You and to one another. Let Your Holy Spirit move powerfully in their lives, breaking every chain of division and strife. We pray that they would experience the fullness of Your peace, joy, and love, not just during the holidays, but every day. May Your name be glorified in their lives, and may they come to know You more deeply through this trial. We thank You, Father, for hearing our prayer and for Your faithfulness to answer. In the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
