We join you in lifting up this request, and we praise God that you have come before Him in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father and by which we are saved. As it is written, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). Your faith in calling upon Jesus is the foundation of all we seek in prayer, and we stand with you in agreement before the Lord.
We do, however, feel led to address some important truths from Scripture regarding the nature of your request. The friendship you describe seems to carry an emotional weight that suggests a deeper attachment than what is biblically appropriate outside of marriage. Friendships between a man and a woman must be guarded with wisdom, purity, and the clear understanding that if either party is seeking a romantic relationship, it should be pursued only within the bounds of biblical courtship leading to marriage between a man and a woman. Scripture warns us, *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership do righteousness and lawlessness have? Or what fellowship does light have with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). While this verse speaks directly to marriage, the principle of godly wisdom in relationships applies to all close connections.
If this friendship has become an emotional dependency or if there are romantic feelings involved, we urge you to prayerfully consider whether this aligns with God’s will for your life. The Lord calls us to relationships that honor Him, and if this bond is causing confusion, distraction, or an unhealthy focus—especially if marriage is not a biblically viable option—then it may be time to seek God’s direction in establishing healthy boundaries or even stepping away. *"All things are lawful for me," but not all things are profitable. "All things are lawful for me," but I will not be mastered by anything"* (1 Corinthians 6:12, WEB). We must not allow any relationship, no matter how well-intentioned, to become an idol or a stumbling block in our walk with Christ.
Regarding your mention of autism, we recognize that every person is fearfully and wonderfully made by God, and disabilities or differences do not diminish one’s value in His eyes. However, Scripture does not promise that every human relationship will progress in the way we desire. Instead, it calls us to trust in God’s sovereignty and His perfect plan for our lives. *"For my thoughts are not your thoughts, and your ways are not my ways," says Yahweh. "For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts"* (Isaiah 55:8-9, WEB). If this friendship is not moving toward a godly marriage, it may be that the Lord is redirecting your heart toward His purpose rather than your own desires.
We also note your prayer for deliverance from familiar spirits. This is a serious matter, and we agree with you in rebuking any spiritual influence that does not align with the will of God. *"Submit therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you"* (James 4:7, WEB). However, we must also examine whether the emotional ties in this friendship have opened a door to spiritual bondage. Unresolved attachments, especially those outside of God’s design, can become strongholds. *"For though we walk in the flesh, we do not wage war according to the flesh; for the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but mighty before God to the throwing down of strongholds"* (2 Corinthians 10:3-4, WEB). We encourage you to surrender this relationship entirely to the Lord, asking Him to break any ungodly soul ties and to fill you with His peace and clarity.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, lifting up our sister who seeks Your glory and restoration. Lord, we ask that You open her eyes to Your perfect will for her life and grant her the wisdom to discern whether this friendship aligns with Your purposes. If this bond has become a distraction or a source of emotional dependency, we pray that You would give her the strength to release it into Your hands. Break any ungodly soul ties or familiar spirits that may have gained influence, and let Your Holy Spirit fill every void with Your presence and truth.
Father, we ask that You restore her heart and redirect her affections toward You first and foremost. If it is Your will for her to pursue marriage, we pray that You would prepare her for a godly spouse who loves You wholeheartedly and who will lead her (or be led by her, if she is to be the wife) in a Christ-centered home. Help her to trust in Your timing and Your plan, knowing that You work all things together for the good of those who love You and are called according to Your purpose.
We rebuke any spiritual forces that seek to bring confusion, bondage, or distraction into her life. By the authority of Jesus Christ, we command every familiar spirit to flee and declare that she is free indeed, as Your Word proclaims. *"So if the Son makes you free, you will be free indeed"* (John 8:36, WEB).
Lord, we also pray for the young man mentioned. We ask that You would surround him with Your love and protection, and that You would bring godly influences into his life to help him grow in You. If it is not Your will for these two to walk closely together, we pray that You would provide clear direction and the grace to obey.
Finally, Father, we ask that You fill our sister with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Let her find her identity and fulfillment in You alone, and may she walk in the freedom and victory that Christ has already won for her. We pray all these things in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen.
We encourage you to spend time in Scripture, particularly in passages that speak to God’s design for relationships, such as 1 Corinthians 7, Ephesians 5:22-33, and Proverbs 3:5-6. Seek the Lord’s face in prayer, and consider sharing this burden with a trusted, mature believer or pastor who can provide godly counsel. The Lord is faithful, and He will guide you as you surrender this situation to Him. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB). Stay steadfast in faith, and may the Lord bless you abundantly as you seek Him first.