We join you in lifting this heavy burden before the Lord, standing firmly on His Word and trusting in His power to bring transformation, healing, and deliverance. Your heart for this person’s salvation is commendable, for there is no greater love than to pray for someone to come to the saving knowledge of Jesus Christ. Yet we must also address the deeper spiritual and relational brokenness at play here, ensuring that all we ask aligns with God’s will and His holy standards.
First, we affirm that salvation is the most critical need for this individual—without Christ, there is no true repentance, no lasting change, and no freedom from the bondage of sin. You have rightly stood on Scripture, and we echo your cry for her heart to be softened. The Lord declares in Ezekiel 36:26-27, *"I will also give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit within you. I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you a heart of flesh. I will put my Spirit within you, and cause you to walk in my statutes."* This is the only path to genuine transformation. We must pray not just for behavioral change, but for a supernatural work of the Holy Spirit to convict, break, and remake her in Christ.
However, we must also speak truth into the dynamics you’ve described. The behaviors you’ve named—narcissism, gaslighting, manipulation, and abuse—are not merely personality flaws but evidence of a heart in rebellion against God. Scripture warns in Proverbs 22:24-25, *"Don’t befriend a hot-tempered man, and don’t associate with one who harbors anger, lest you learn his ways, and ensnare your soul."* While we pray for her salvation, we must also urge you to examine your own boundaries and submission to God’s design for relationships. If this person is not your spouse, we strongly caution against emotional or relational entanglement that could lead to further harm. The Bible calls us to *"flee from sexual immorality"* (1 Corinthians 6:18) and to avoid unequally yoked relationships (2 Corinthians 6:14). If this is not a marital relationship, you must seek the Lord’s wisdom about whether this connection should continue at all, especially if it is marked by unrepentant sin and abuse.
If this *is* a marriage, then we stand with you in praying for restoration—but only as the Lord leads, and only if there is genuine repentance. Ephesians 5:22-33 outlines the sacred responsibilities of marriage, where both parties are called to submit to Christ first and to one another in love. Abuse, manipulation, and unrepentant sin have no place in a godly marriage. If this is your spouse, we urge you to seek wise, biblical counseling and, if necessary, safe separation until there is evidence of true repentance and change. The Lord does not call us to endure ongoing abuse in the name of "submission" or "forgiveness." Safety and holiness must be prioritized.
As for the request regarding the other individual you mentioned, we pray that the Lord would expose and remove any influence that is not of Him. Jeremiah 12:14 is a solemn reminder that the Lord will judge those who persist in evil: *"Thus says Yahweh against all my evil neighbors, who touch the inheritance which I have caused my people Israel to inherit: ‘Behold, I will pluck them up from off their land, and will pluck up the house of Judah from among them.’"* Yet even in this, our prayer is for repentance, not vengeance. Romans 12:19-21 commands, *"Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, ‘Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.’ Therefore ‘If your enemy is hungry, feed him. If he is thirsty, give him a drink; for in doing so, you will heap coals of fire on his head.’ Don’t be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."*
We also note your plea for healing from the abuse you’ve endured. This is a righteous request, and we stand with you in asking the Lord to bind up your wounds. Psalm 147:3 assures us, *"He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds."* Yet healing often requires action on our part—seeking godly counsel, setting boundaries, and sometimes stepping away from toxic environments. You cannot force someone to change, but you can surrender this burden to the Lord and trust Him to work while you walk in obedience.
Finally, we must address the use of "#" symbols in place of this person’s identity. While we understand the desire for privacy, we encourage you to speak plainly before the Lord in prayer. He knows the names and the details already (Psalm 139:1-4), and there is power in naming our struggles before Him. More importantly, we must always pray *in the name of Jesus*, for it is the only name by which we are saved and through which we have access to the Father (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). You closed your prayer rightly in Jesus’ name, and we commend you for that. Never forget that your authority in prayer comes solely through Christ.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this brother/sister and the heavy burdens they carry. Lord, You see the pain, the manipulation, the abuse, and the spiritual warfare at work here. We ask first and foremost for the salvation of this individual who has caused such harm. Softten her heart, Lord—break through the hardness, the pride, and the deception. Let her encounter You in a way she cannot ignore, that she may fall on her knees in repentance and surrender to Christ. Remove the scales from her eyes, Lord, and let her see her sin as You see it. Bring godly sorrow that leads to repentance (2 Corinthians 7:10), and let her turn from her wicked ways.
Father, we also pray for our brother/sister here. Heal the wounds inflicted by abuse and gaslighting. Restore what has been stolen—peace, joy, confidence, and trust in You. Give them wisdom to know how to respond, whether that means setting boundaries, seeking counsel, or in some cases, stepping away entirely. Lord, if this is not a marital relationship, we ask that You would sever any ungodly soul ties and lead this person into relationships that honor You. If it is a marriage, we pray for Your miraculous intervention—either to bring repentance and restoration or to provide clarity and strength for the next steps.
We rebuke the spirit of narcissism, manipulation, and abuse in Jesus’ name. These are not of You, Lord, and we command them to flee. We ask that You would expose every scheme of the enemy and render his plans powerless. If there are others involved in perpetuating harm, Lord, remove them or bring them to repentance. Let no weapon formed against Your child prosper (Isaiah 54:17).
Father, we also ask for anger management and healing for all involved—but let it be rooted in true repentance, not just behavioral modification. You alone can change the heart. We trust You to do what we cannot.
Finally, Lord, we pray for our brother/sister’s walk with You. Strengthen their faith. Let them not grow bitter or hardened but instead grow closer to You through this trial. Remind them that You are their Defender, their Healer, and their Redeemer.
We ask all this in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
We encourage you to continue seeking the Lord’s face, immersing yourself in His Word, and surrounding yourself with a community of believers who can offer support and accountability. If you are in an abusive situation, please reach out to a trusted pastor or biblical counselor for guidance. You are not alone, and the Lord sees your suffering. Trust Him to act on your behalf as you walk in obedience and faith.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
