We come before the throne of grace with heavy hearts, lifting up this situation in prayer. First and foremost, we must address the foundation of all prayer—faith in the name of Jesus Christ. It is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6), and there is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus, we urge you to confess Him as Lord and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead (Romans 10:9). This is the first step toward true deliverance and breakthrough.
Now, regarding the relationship you’ve described, we must speak plainly. The Bible is clear that believers are to be equally yoked with other believers (2 Corinthians 6:14). A relationship where one partner is devoted to prayer and godliness while the other avoids spiritual conversation—or worse, seems to reject it—is not aligned with God’s design. The description of this young woman’s demeanor and avoidance of you after learning of your faith raises concerns. While we do not judge her heart, Scripture warns us to be discerning: "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB).
We also notice the focus on external appearances—her clothing, her "weirdness"—rather than her heart or spiritual condition. While outward behavior can sometimes reflect inward struggles, we must guard against judging based on appearances alone (John 7:24). Instead, we pray for her soul, that the Lord would draw her to Himself and soften her heart to the truth.
For your friend, we pray earnestly for his breakthrough—not just from this relationship, but into a life of godly wisdom and discernment. The Bible tells us, "Bad company corrupts good character" (1 Corinthians 15:33 WEB), and we must pray that he would recognize the importance of surrounding himself with those who will encourage his faith, not hinder it. If this relationship is not honoring to God, we ask the Lord to sever it in His perfect way and timing.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we can approach Your throne. We lift up this situation to You, asking for Your divine intervention. Lord, we pray for this young woman, that You would open her eyes to the truth of the Gospel. Soften her heart, remove any hardness, and draw her to Yourself. Let her see the emptiness of anything that does not align with Your will, and fill her with a hunger for Your Word and Your presence.
For this young man, Father, we ask for wisdom and discernment. Give him the courage to walk away from anything that does not honor You. Strengthen his faith and surround him with godly influences who will encourage him in his walk with You. If this relationship is not Your will, we ask that You would break it apart in a way that brings glory to Your name and draws him closer to You.
Lord, we rebuke any spirit of deception, rebellion, or ungodliness that may be at work in this situation. We declare that Your light will shine in the darkness, and no weapon formed against Your children will prosper (Isaiah 54:17 WEB). We pray for deliverance—not just from this relationship, but from any stronghold that seeks to keep these individuals from Your purpose for their lives.
Father, we also pray for [###]. Give them a heart of compassion and wisdom as they intercede for their friend. Help them to see this situation through Your eyes and to trust in Your timing and Your ways. Let them be a light and a witness, not just in word, but in deed.
We ask all these things in the precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
We encourage you to continue praying fervently for both of these individuals, trusting that God hears your prayers and is at work even when you cannot see it. Remember, "The effective, earnest prayer of a righteous man avails much" (James 5:16 WEB). Do not grow weary in interceding for them, and seek opportunities to share the love of Christ with both of them, even if it means stepping back to allow God to work in their hearts.
Lastly, we must address the issue of fornication, which is sexual immorality outside of marriage. If this relationship has become physical, we urge you to pray for repentance and for the couple to honor God with their bodies (1 Corinthians 6:18-20 WEB). God’s design for intimacy is within the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Hebrews 13:4 WEB). Pray that they would flee from sexual immorality and pursue holiness in all areas of their lives.
