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Ephesians 5:22-24
22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Soon after I had decided to stay with my husband, a very loved sister in Christ brought up submission to my husband. My first thought "are you kidding me? I just decided to stay with the man that destroyed my heart, left me in a black hole of despair, and now you want to discuss submission to him?"
I had and still have enormous amount of trust and love for this woman or at that time I would have just decided she was crazy. She went on to say not submitting to your husband is the same as not submitting to Christ! Wow that was almost too much to handle. I had to go strictly on faith in God's word, and her speaking the Lord's Truth into me. I know now that was an incredibly loving thing to say. The sooner I was taught the truth and started walking in obedience to the Lord, and the sooner I accepted God's order of the way marriage was supposed to look, the better off I was.
I questioned her about him not following the Lord, do I still have to submit? YES Unless he asks you to go against God. This concerned me, then she said if you are walking in obedience to the Lord, He will take care of you.
Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding
Submission to men was a foreign concept. First of all I was a feminist. Second of all my first husband was abusive, not to mention what happened with my dad and then the sexual abuse. The only way to start comprehending this was the power of the Holy Spirit, renewing of the mind. I have to get out of fleshly thinking and try to see it as God sees it. (I have to say this. If there is a woman reading this, is in an abusive home, this does NOT mean submit to the abuse, nor does it say to continue living with an abusive husband).
God had designed it that the husband was the leader from the very beginning. Not in a tyrannical dictator way, but in a loving, sacrificing way to create order, and eliminate chaos.
Then the APPLE. Eve decided to go against the command of God, and venture out without consulting her husband and not only eat the apple, but get her husband to as well. Then blame shifted when God asked her about it.
The Curse
​ Genesis 3:16 To the woman he said, "I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you."
A few trusted people in my life have brought the curse up lately to me. When I started studying this I thought, "well that explains a lot". I have tried for years to get my husband to do what I say, or want, or do. I have been extremely rebellious to his wishes. This causes a lot of strife in a marriage. I pretty much would take an opposing view to any wishes he had. (I can hear feminist in the background saying, but what about him? This blog is about what the Lord is doing in me, and my obedience to the Lord). Now that I am walking with the Lord I, judge his walk with the Lord, I still try to make him do it my way. I try to teach him about The Lord, and baptism, and the Bible. I get met with an obstinate attitude. Someone I trust and love explained that me teaching him is not in the natural order of how God made us. By me being submissive, gentle and kind, that will be met with a lot less resistance. There will be a time for sharing the Gospel, but not now.
This is extremely difficult for me. I am used to raising the kids pretty much on my own (he works A LOT), making all household decisions and financial decisions. I need guidance from the Lord and His strength to repent, and let go of pride. I will say when I do it, he is almost left speechless, and he is in shock, and our home is so much more peaceful.
Ephesians 5:21-33
21And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.22For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.25For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her 26to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word.b 27He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. 28In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. 29No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. 30And we are members of his body.
31As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”c 32This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. 33So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Dear Lord Teach us Your way, Holy Spirit fill us, guide us, comfort us, Thank You Lord for the many blessings You have given each of us. Thank You Jesus Amen
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Ephesians 5:22-24
22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Soon after I had decided to stay with my husband, a very loved sister in Christ brought up submission to my husband. My first thought "are you kidding me? I just decided to stay with the man that destroyed my heart, left me in a black hole of despair, and now you want to discuss submission to him?"
I had and still have enormous amount of trust and love for this woman or at that time I would have just decided she was crazy. She went on to say not submitting to your husband is the same as not submitting to Christ! Wow that was almost too much to handle. I had to go strictly on faith in God's word, and her speaking the Lord's Truth into me. I know now that was an incredibly loving thing to say. The sooner I was taught the truth and started walking in obedience to the Lord, and the sooner I accepted God's order of the way marriage was supposed to look, the better off I was.
I questioned her about him not following the Lord, do I still have to submit? YES Unless he asks you to go against God. This concerned me, then she said if you are walking in obedience to the Lord, He will take care of you.
Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding
Submission to men was a foreign concept. First of all I was a feminist. Second of all my first husband was abusive, not to mention what happened with my dad and then the sexual abuse. The only way to start comprehending this was the power of the Holy Spirit, renewing of the mind. I have to get out of fleshly thinking and try to see it as God sees it. (I have to say this. If there is a woman reading this, is in an abusive home, this does NOT mean submit to the abuse, nor does it say to continue living with an abusive husband).
God had designed it that the husband was the leader from the very beginning. Not in a tyrannical dictator way, but in a loving, sacrificing way to create order, and eliminate chaos.
Then the APPLE. Eve decided to go against the command of God, and venture out without consulting her husband and not only eat the apple, but get her husband to as well. Then blame shifted when God asked her about it.
The Curse
​ Genesis 3:16 To the woman he said, "I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you."
A few trusted people in my life have brought the curse up lately to me. When I started studying this I thought, "well that explains a lot". I have tried for years to get my husband to do what I say, or want, or do. I have been extremely rebellious to his wishes. This causes a lot of strife in a marriage. I pretty much would take an opposing view to any wishes he had. (I can hear feminist in the background saying, but what about him? This blog is about what the Lord is doing in me, and my obedience to the Lord). Now that I am walking with the Lord I, judge his walk with the Lord, I still try to make him do it my way. I try to teach him about The Lord, and baptism, and the Bible. I get met with an obstinate attitude. Someone I trust and love explained that me teaching him is not in the natural order of how God made us. By me being submissive, gentle and kind, that will be met with a lot less resistance. There will be a time for sharing the Gospel, but not now.
This is extremely difficult for me. I am used to raising the kids pretty much on my own (he works A LOT), making all household decisions and financial decisions. I need guidance from the Lord and His strength to repent, and let go of pride. I will say when I do it, he is almost left speechless, and he is in shock, and our home is so much more peaceful.
Ephesians 5:21-33
21And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.22For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.25For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her 26to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word.b 27He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. 28In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. 29No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. 30And we are members of his body.
31As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”c 32This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. 33So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Dear Lord Teach us Your way, Holy Spirit fill us, guide us, comfort us, Thank You Lord for the many blessings You have given each of us. Thank You Jesus Amen
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