Good morning
I don’t know about the rest of you but did you ever notice that when you are trying to be still that time passes so slowly. J
Everything is relative I gather. So we are on Day 19. How is everyone feeling? I wonder if we have noticed we have been doing a lot of exploring of ourselves during this time. Has anyone noticed that while they are growing closer to God, that he is moving on the other side of the mountain? Just a question.
I believe that is how it works. We need to take our hand and eyes and eventually our minds off of constantly thinking and worrying about our spouse. We have to trust the Lord. I used to think well if I don’t tell my spouse or if I don’t see my spouse how is he going to know I have changed? Wow, if I push my spouse to speak to me or force him to see me, guess what, I haven’t changed. I am still trying to control it.
Have you ever bought your child a beautiful gift knowing this is what they wanted, but before you get to give it to them they tell you what they want, even if it is the same thing that you have already bought, don’t you feel deflated? I don’t know about the rest of you it upsets me, because here I have thought and thought about what would be a really nice gift and now they have told me, so now they are going to think it got it because they told me to get it instead of saying wow she really knows me. Yes I know part of that is pride but part of it is also wanting to show them that I do love you and listen to you, so I already know the desires of your heart before you even tell me.
Sometimes I think our spouses and God feels the same way. We may be on their minds or they may have wanted to do something no matter how small it might be for us but we have stolen their glory by pre-empting what they were going to do. They may have wanted to just text to say hi as their way of letting us know they were thinking about us but we texted first. They may have wanted to give us a card but we gave them one first. God may have wanted to give us a gift of bumping into your spouse at the grocery store but instead you planned when you know he normally goes and tried to “accidently “ bump into them on your own.
I don’t know about the rest of you, sometimes I get deflated when I see my spouse or angry. I find this is because I have done it in my own might because I felt (there goes those feelings again) I had to do something. But when things happen unexpectantly it lifts me up and I am shouting and praising God and my spouse. This goes for when bad things happen as well. I find when I go and poke or do something even though I have an idea of what I will find, it still throws me, but when I wait till God’s timing it affects me but not as much because he already has me in his place and timing which is why he reveled it to me at that time.
I more than anyone know how hard it is to be still. I try so hard but I also am realizing over and over again, that it is not trusting or obeying God to get ahead of his schedule. I can justify it in my mind,(I’m just saying hi, after all I pay the bill J, or that it is not God I don’t trust it is my husband), but when you have to justify your action you already know you are in the wrong. We do not have to trust our spouse because at this point in time we already know they are untrustworthy, which may be why this has happened. God wants us to trust HIM not our spouses or friends or even pastors. Our Trust has to be in God.
Being still is not passive and it takes more work than actively chasing or trying to contact your spouse. It takes a lot of work and energy, but we have God to renew us and when we falter he is still there but the added stress ooohhh!!!!!... I don’t know about the rest of you, I can really do without it.
So let us again try to be still and let God tell us what to do. Let him guide our footsteps and our thoughts. It is a long battle for our spouse’s soul and we need to use our energy wisely.
Have a great day and Be Still!!!
Anthonette.
List of names and marriages
Father God as we start our day please let us get quiet with you and be still. Let us ask you for guidance for today and every day. Let us come to you for every decision we have to make not just the ones regarding our marriages. We are tired and need to learn to rest in the knowledge that you know what is best for us, that you love us and have listened to us and know the desires of our heart and soul. That you will guide us and give us presents to remind us along the way that you are right there with us looking out for our best interests... In Jesus name Amen.
I don’t know about the rest of you but did you ever notice that when you are trying to be still that time passes so slowly. J
Everything is relative I gather. So we are on Day 19. How is everyone feeling? I wonder if we have noticed we have been doing a lot of exploring of ourselves during this time. Has anyone noticed that while they are growing closer to God, that he is moving on the other side of the mountain? Just a question.
I believe that is how it works. We need to take our hand and eyes and eventually our minds off of constantly thinking and worrying about our spouse. We have to trust the Lord. I used to think well if I don’t tell my spouse or if I don’t see my spouse how is he going to know I have changed? Wow, if I push my spouse to speak to me or force him to see me, guess what, I haven’t changed. I am still trying to control it.
Have you ever bought your child a beautiful gift knowing this is what they wanted, but before you get to give it to them they tell you what they want, even if it is the same thing that you have already bought, don’t you feel deflated? I don’t know about the rest of you it upsets me, because here I have thought and thought about what would be a really nice gift and now they have told me, so now they are going to think it got it because they told me to get it instead of saying wow she really knows me. Yes I know part of that is pride but part of it is also wanting to show them that I do love you and listen to you, so I already know the desires of your heart before you even tell me.
Sometimes I think our spouses and God feels the same way. We may be on their minds or they may have wanted to do something no matter how small it might be for us but we have stolen their glory by pre-empting what they were going to do. They may have wanted to just text to say hi as their way of letting us know they were thinking about us but we texted first. They may have wanted to give us a card but we gave them one first. God may have wanted to give us a gift of bumping into your spouse at the grocery store but instead you planned when you know he normally goes and tried to “accidently “ bump into them on your own.
I don’t know about the rest of you, sometimes I get deflated when I see my spouse or angry. I find this is because I have done it in my own might because I felt (there goes those feelings again) I had to do something. But when things happen unexpectantly it lifts me up and I am shouting and praising God and my spouse. This goes for when bad things happen as well. I find when I go and poke or do something even though I have an idea of what I will find, it still throws me, but when I wait till God’s timing it affects me but not as much because he already has me in his place and timing which is why he reveled it to me at that time.
I more than anyone know how hard it is to be still. I try so hard but I also am realizing over and over again, that it is not trusting or obeying God to get ahead of his schedule. I can justify it in my mind,(I’m just saying hi, after all I pay the bill J, or that it is not God I don’t trust it is my husband), but when you have to justify your action you already know you are in the wrong. We do not have to trust our spouse because at this point in time we already know they are untrustworthy, which may be why this has happened. God wants us to trust HIM not our spouses or friends or even pastors. Our Trust has to be in God.
Being still is not passive and it takes more work than actively chasing or trying to contact your spouse. It takes a lot of work and energy, but we have God to renew us and when we falter he is still there but the added stress ooohhh!!!!!... I don’t know about the rest of you, I can really do without it.
So let us again try to be still and let God tell us what to do. Let him guide our footsteps and our thoughts. It is a long battle for our spouse’s soul and we need to use our energy wisely.
Have a great day and Be Still!!!
Anthonette.
List of names and marriages
- Joe and Cindy Frank
- Tina and Michael Nadama
- Karen and Tim Davis
- Anthonette And Rudolph Simons and Family
- Kevin and Nancy Owens
- Marriage Covenant Ministries
- Wobanda Felly
- Gary Mayfeild
- Lori And Darryl Vartabedian
- Debroah and Sonny Woods
- Judy Hite
- Richard Willis
- Shawn and Kristen Drennen
- Kim61
- Shanita and DaMon Johnson
- Neta and Chris
- Paula and Allen
- Mandy and Rodrigo Shumacker
- Heather Lueth
- Scott and Crystal
- B.J. and Threasa Scroggins and Family
- Nina and Dennis
- Dilawn and Ryan
- Chandra and Greg
- Adam and Sabrina Lawson
- Karen Savoie
- Beverly Lagana
- Sallie and Andre Clement
- Lisa Dabe
- Wes and Jodi Bailes
- Farah Meza Lopez and Henry Brekvoort
- Carmen and Erin
- Carly and Crystal
- Gina and Ade Olawale
- Diana and Juan Pablo
- Leslee and John Rossotto
- Nick and Sarah McNeill
- Brad and Rosemary Salisnury
- Eric and Crystal Meehan
- Neil and Nancy Quinn
- Stephen and Noelle Mounce
- Barta and Billy Kemp
- Solon and Leah Philips
- Lichelle Whittaker
- Arcy Espana
- Katy and Erine Macias
- Karen and Andre Marias
- Susan and Rob
- Luis and Mattie Bediako
- Scott and Heather Ellis
- Lourdres and Tommy Moore
- Mark and Geeta Arathoon
- Ugo and Tope Osuya
- Tim and Jennie Packard
- Janet and Rodney Whitmore
- Scott and Delores Hanks
- Diana Moreno
- Sheila and Jose Reveron
- shadowofleaves
- AHEMED AND Charmaine Bouchouka
- Kevin and Michelle
- Freddrick and Angela Young Jordan
- Jade and Willie Cordova
- Jessica and Ronald Ndoro
- Pam and Richard Thompson
- Ernest and Nichole Herrere, and children Josiah, Selah, Eliannah, Jude
- David and Elizabeth Barrios
- Krystal and Ervin Arroyo
- Bwire Anne Wanjiku and Chrispinus Bwire
- Chily and Ana Maria Alviar
- Torrey and Stephanie Harrison
- Stephen & Noelle Mounce
- Jack and Kimie Michele Beeching
- Mike and Missy
- Mike and Tami Crites
- Lela and Jeremy
- Ty and Talitha Brittain
- Ben and Lisa Marie
- Benjamin and Lisa Marie Loya
- Torrey and Stephanie Harrison
- Jamie Keeney
- Mark and Jennifer
- Clayton and Elvira Sneed
- Valerie and Ayodeji
- Laquonda Esther Morris and spouse
- Ryan And Misty Phipps
- Timothy and Paula Birmingham
- Shane and Rebecca Bunch
- Paul and Maria
- Mike and Fab
- John and Karen
- Pastor Rob plus his estranged (but not for long) wife
- Jillian and Mike
- Norma And Frank Miller
- Jim & Becci Berry
- Sean and Samantha Archer and family
- Janae Hall and family
- Michael and Candace Felt
- Letichia Christopher and family
- Tim & Chris
Father God as we start our day please let us get quiet with you and be still. Let us ask you for guidance for today and every day. Let us come to you for every decision we have to make not just the ones regarding our marriages. We are tired and need to learn to rest in the knowledge that you know what is best for us, that you love us and have listened to us and know the desires of our heart and soul. That you will guide us and give us presents to remind us along the way that you are right there with us looking out for our best interests... In Jesus name Amen.
