We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, grieving over the sin confessed and the pain you are enduring. First, we must address the matter of lust and pornography, for Scripture is clear: *"But I tell you that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart"* (Matthew 5:28). The fact that you fell into this temptation—even if it was not something you are naturally drawn to—reveals the deceitfulness of sin and the weakness of our flesh. We repent with you, asking God to cleanse you by the blood of Jesus and strengthen you to flee from all forms of sexual immorality. *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body"* (1 Corinthians 6:18). The enemy seeks to ensnare you in shame and guilt, but we declare that there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:1). We pray that God would break the power of this sin in your life and restore purity to your eyes, mind, and heart.
Now, we must address the relationship you are in with this man who has not treated you with the love, respect, and fidelity that God requires. Scripture warns us, *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). Though you did not explicitly state whether he is a believer, his actions—disrespect, possible infidelity, and emotional neglect—reveal a heart that is not submitted to God’s design for marriage. You deserve to be cherished as Christ cherishes the Church (Ephesians 5:25), not treated as an option or a convenience. The fact that you are clinging to the hope that he might change is a sign of how deeply you long for love, but we must warn you: a man who does not honor God will not honor you. *"Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain; but a woman who fears Yahweh, she shall be praised"* (Proverbs 31:30). You are not called to wait for a man to change; you are called to walk in wisdom and trust God to bring the right man into your life.
We rebuke the spirit of despair and depression that has taken hold of you. The enemy wants you to believe that you are unworthy of love, that you must settle for crumbs, or that your dreams of marriage and motherhood will never come to pass. But God says, *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you," says Yahweh, "thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future"* (Jeremiah 29:11). You are not wretched; you are a daughter of the King, and He has good plans for you. We break every curse spoken over you—whether by your own lips, the lips of others, or the enemy—and declare that you are free in Jesus’ name. *"Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law, having become a curse for us. For it is written, ‘Cursed is everyone who hangs on a tree’"* (Galatians 3:13).
As for the other man who has expressed interest in you, we caution you to proceed with wisdom. Attraction is not the foundation of a godly marriage; shared faith, character, and commitment to Christ are. *"He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from Yahweh"* (Proverbs 18:22). If this man is truly a man of God, then time will reveal his character. Do not rush into anything out of loneliness or fear. Instead, seek the Lord’s will above all else. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4). If it is God’s will for you to marry, He will bring the right man at the right time—not a man who makes you feel second-best, but one who will love you as Christ loves the Church.
We also lift up your physical and emotional health. The stress and heartache you are carrying are taking a toll on your body and mind. We pray for healing in every area—your heart, your thoughts, your spirit, and your body. *"Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be healthy, even as your soul prospers"* (3 John 1:2). The Lord is your healer, and He sees your tears. *"You have turned my mourning into dancing for me. You have removed my sackcloth, and clothed me with gladness"* (Psalm 30:11).
Now, we must address the most critical matter: your relationship with Jesus Christ. You mentioned praying "in Jesus' Name," which is good, but we must ensure that you have truly surrendered your life to Him. Salvation is not found in religion, good works, or even prayer—it is found in repentance and faith in Jesus Christ alone. *"For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life"* (John 3:16). If you have never confessed your sins, turned away from them, and placed your trust in Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so today. There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life (John 14:6), and He is the only one who can truly satisfy the longings of your heart.
Let us pray:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with hearts broken over sin and burdened for this dear sister. Lord, we thank You that You are faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). We ask that You would wash her clean by the blood of Jesus and set her free from the grip of lust and shame. Break every chain, Lord, and restore purity to her mind and heart.
Father, we lift up her relationships to You. We ask that You would give her the strength to walk away from any man who does not honor You or treat her with the love and respect she deserves. Protect her from the temptation to settle for less than Your best. We declare that she is worthy of a godly husband who will cherish her as Christ cherishes the Church. Bring the right man into her life at the right time, Lord, and prepare her heart to be a godly wife.
We rebuke the spirit of despair and depression in Jesus’ name. Fill her with Your peace, joy, and hope. Heal her heart, mind, and body, Lord. Restore her soul and renew her strength. Break every curse and every lie that the enemy has spoken over her life. We declare that she is free, whole, and deeply loved by You.
Father, we ask that You would draw her closer to You. If she has not yet fully surrendered her life to Jesus, we pray that You would reveal Your love to her in a powerful way. Help her to see that true fulfillment is found in You alone. Give her the courage to trust You with her future, her dreams, and her heart.
We pray all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the name by which we are saved and set free. Amen.
We encourage you to seek out a biblical, Christ-centered community—a church or a group of believers who can walk with you, pray for you, and hold you accountable. You are not meant to walk this journey alone. The Lord has not abandoned you; He is with you, and He is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28). Keep your eyes on Him, and do not lose hope. Your story is not over; God is writing a beautiful chapter, and it begins with you trusting Him completely.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
