Clouded Judgement

[Hungry4love357]

I am struggling with my morals right now.  I want to wait for my future wife before I have giving up my virginity, but this girl I may start dating soon is not a Christian, and I'm scared of dating her, because I am afraid I may fall for her and give myself to her.  If she were to come onto me sexually I don't know if I could control myself.  I am afraid, she will try to seduce me.  If that happened I would be absolutely devastated.  The only way I could justify it is to marry her.  Do I pass this opportunity by and wait to see if there is someone else like her that is a Christian, or do I take the risk and see what happens.  I just keep thinking about all those letters I wrote to my future wife, and how if I screw up and give myself to the wrong person it would hurt her feelings.  I don't know what to do. I am scared to death of messing up.  And it's got my anxiety going through the roof.  Please pray that I use my better judgement and fight off sexual temptation.  Please pray that God would put up a defence to keep me from messing up.  If she tries anything let it fail.  If I trie to break my promise to my future wife about my verginity, may God send angles to stop me.  I give God my permission to interfear with my free will in this manner.  If I try to give up, God please stop me.  In Jesus name, Amen.

 

[Matthew01]

Through the Lord Jesus Christ, may this request be fulfilled. Amen

 

[sandra]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Steven Bobb]

It's about prioritiesLike, do you listen to God or your sex drive?.I would reason with her if it looks like it's coming to that, explain that you're a Christian, maybe even mention marriage. Upon accepting Jesus,you're forgiven of all sins past and present, BUT , if you give in the first time, then it could become a habit with her, and it's like why be a Christian, but have a whole sinful lifestyle?Also, if you witness to unsaved people, they wouldn't take you seriously.I would maybe bring up your concerns with her sooner or later.This way instead of being stressed out about it, you're talking to the person you're worried about, so everythings upfront instead of wondering what will be. Also, you can "have your cake and eat it" by going to a Christian dating site, you"ll have the companionship, but they think like you, so there shouldn't be "slip ups"like that.

 

[Hopeful23]

This is way more than giving in to sin. You are not supposed to be unequally yoked for many reasons. You cannot build a strong foundation for a relationship since you are on opposite sides of the spiritual spectrum.

If you are saved then you are in the light and if she is unsaved then she is in the dark. How can light and dark cohabitate together? There would always be problems and pulling in different directions. More than likely she will drag you down to her level.

Don't do it. It's not worth the consequences.

As for having your cake and eat it. That is condoning sin in my opinion. Very bad advice.

If you want a real relationship then you need to be real and look in the right places. Going on dating sites and playing games on there is not only stupid but immoral. Have some standards and stick to them. From what I've heard dating sites are full of fake and psychopathic types since they can make fake online profiles.

There is no easy answer to finding a life partner but better met in real life than on the internet. Join a Bible study perhaps. That's where I met my husband.

 

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