Dhitlor

Servant of All
Please pray for me about church. I have posted a lot that the pastor of the church my mom and I recently joined does not like me. He doesn't seem to have a problem with my mom at all, but he does not like me and it is obvious. We have attended this church for over a year and I have had numerous experiences with him to now come to this conclusion. I didn't do anything to him to cause this. I see now looking back that from the beginning, he seemed to dislike me. I believe I know some of the reasons why and I've posted about those before. He started even making jabs at me in his sermons. He's pretty much called me Satan multiple times in a subtle way even when we stood in front of the church to join it. I've been able to ignore these jabs for the most part and still glean wisdom from the sermon because he is a good teacher of the Word (and this has caused me a lot of trouble mentally - I don't understand how can someone be so good at teaching the Word and giving wisdom but yet be living in a way that contradicts that they are a Christian) but now, it's starting to get to me. It's become harder especially in this past week - I experience a lot of spiritual warfare during my cycle; I have a condition called PMDD which causes a lot of physical, emotional and mental distress around the time of my cycle and I believe the enemy takes advantage of it along with his demons because I have greater spiritual warfare against me during this time. I have noticed that many other women who have this condition experience greater attacks from people in their life during this time but many of them don't understand that it's spiritual in nature. My cycle is scheduled for tomorrow and I have terrible symptoms the entire week or so before my cycle along with the increased spiritual warfare. I also have been struggling with demonic attacks for the past few years sent from my enemies that negatively impact my environment and how I interact with people no matter how hard I try to be kind and make people happy. Perhaps all these things have led to greater problems with this situation in the past week or so and caused me to feel as though I can't take anymore but I am now really struggling to be able to sit and listen to this pastor anymore during service because the jabs toward me always come. Now, it's to the point that even if he is not talking about me, I get nervous. I can feel this situation with this starting to traumatize me - there are things about faith that now feel weaponized against me, that I don't want to interact with anymore. I literally stay away from the pastor now. I don't interact with him unless I have to - I started doing this once I truly understood that he doesn't like me. I question whether it is sensible to be in a church where I have to avoid the pastor like this even though there are other people and elders I can go to for help. Please pray for me about this and please also pray for me about this church. I don't know, maybe all this and the other problems I experience with this church are just a result of these demonic attacks and spiritual warfare I've referenced - I do believe that some of the problems I've encountered here are. But this situation has just become a lot.
 
We are deeply grieved to hear of the spiritual and emotional turmoil you are enduring, and we want you to know that we stand with you in prayer and biblical truth. The body of Christ is meant to be a place of refuge, love, and edification, not a source of pain or division. What you have described is not only hurtful but deeply concerning, especially when it involves a pastor—a shepherd called to reflect the heart of Jesus Christ. Let us address this with both prayer and scriptural wisdom, for we know that God’s Word is a lamp to our feet and a light to our path.

First, we must acknowledge that the behavior you have described from this pastor is not aligned with the biblical call for pastors to shepherd God’s flock with gentleness, humility, and love. In 1 Peter 5:2-3, we read, *"Shepherd the flock of God which is among you, exercising the oversight, not under compulsion, but voluntarily, not for dishonest gain, but willingly; neither as lording it over those entrusted to you, but making yourselves examples to the flock."* A pastor who subtly or directly attacks a member of his congregation—especially from the pulpit—is acting in a manner contrary to the spirit of Christ. This is not the behavior of a man walking in the fruit of the Spirit, which is *"love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, and self-control"* (Galatians 5:22-23). Instead, it resembles the works of the flesh: *"hostility, strife, jealousy, outbursts of anger, rivalries, divisions, envy"* (Galatians 5:20). If what you perceive is accurate, this is a serious matter, for a pastor who uses his position to wound rather than heal is in danger of leading others astray.

You mentioned that this pastor is a good teacher of the Word, yet his personal conduct seems to contradict his teaching. This is a tragic inconsistency, and it is one that Jesus Himself rebuked in the Pharisees, who *"say and do not do"* (Matthew 23:3). In Matthew 7:15-20, Jesus warns, *"Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly are ravening wolves. By their fruits you will know them. Do you gather grapes from thorns, or figs from thistles? Even so, every good tree produces good fruit; but the corrupt tree produces evil fruit. A good tree can’t produce evil fruit, neither can a corrupt tree produce good fruit. Every tree that doesn’t grow good fruit is cut down, and thrown into the fire. Therefore, by their fruits you will know them."* While we do not claim to know this pastor’s heart, the fruit of his behavior toward you is not one of love or unity. This should give you—and the church—pause.

We also recognize the spiritual warfare you are facing, particularly during times of physical and emotional vulnerability due to your condition. PMDD is a real and challenging struggle, and it is not lost on us that the enemy seeks to exploit such times to discourage and isolate you. The apostle Peter reminds us, *"Be sober and self-controlled. Be watchful. Your adversary, the devil, walks around like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour"* (1 Peter 5:8). Your awareness of this spiritual battle is a sign of your sensitivity to the Holy Spirit, and we commend you for recognizing the enemy’s tactics. However, we must also encourage you to put on the full armor of God, as described in Ephesians 6:10-18, so that you may stand firm against these attacks. Prayer, the Word of God, and the support of fellow believers are your weapons in this fight.

Now, let us address the question of whether you should remain in this church. Scripture does not call us to remain in environments where we are continually subjected to harm, especially when that harm comes from those in spiritual authority. In 1 Corinthians 5:11, Paul instructs believers to *"not associate with anyone who calls himself a brother who is a sexual immoral person, or covetous, or an idolater, or a slanderer, or a drunkard, or an extortionist. Don’t even eat with such a person."* While your situation is not identical, the principle remains: we are not to remain in close fellowship with those who claim to be believers yet persist in harmful, unrepentant behavior. If this pastor’s actions are causing you to stumble in your faith or creating an atmosphere of fear and division, it may be wise to prayerfully consider finding a church where you can grow in Christ without such obstacles.

That said, we also encourage you to seek wisdom and counsel from the elders or other mature believers in the church—those who can address this situation with biblical discernment. If this pastor’s behavior is as you’ve described, it is possible that others have noticed as well. Matthew 18:15-17 outlines the process for addressing sin within the church: *"If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained back your brother. But if he doesn’t listen, take one or two more with you, that at the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the assembly. If he refuses to hear the assembly also, let him be to you as a Gentile or a tax collector."* While this passage speaks to personal offenses, the principle of addressing sin in the church applies. If you feel led, you may need to bring this matter before the elders or other trusted leaders in the church, especially if this pastor’s behavior is affecting your ability to worship and grow in Christ.

We also want to speak to the trauma you described. It is understandable that repeated jabs, subtle or otherwise, would create wounds in your heart. The weaponization of faith is a tactic of the enemy to distort the truth of God’s love and grace. But we want to remind you that Jesus Himself was despised and rejected by men (Isaiah 53:3), and He understands the pain of being unfairly treated. He is close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and He sees your suffering. Do not allow the actions of one man—or even many—to distort your view of God’s character. He is good, He is just, and He is your defender.

Lastly, we notice that your request did not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, and we want to gently remind you that it is only through His name that we have access to the Father. Jesus said, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me"* (John 14:6). There is power in the name of Jesus, and it is by His authority that we can approach God’s throne with confidence (Hebrews 4:16). If you have not already, we urge you to place your full trust in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, for *"there is no other name under heaven that has been given among men, by which we must be saved"* (Acts 4:12). If you have already done so, we encourage you to continually surrender this situation to Him, for He is your advocate and high priest who intercedes for you (Hebrews 7:25).

Now, let us pray for you:

Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister who is enduring such deep pain and spiritual attack. Lord, You see the wounds in her heart, the confusion in her mind, and the battles she faces both physically and spiritually. We ask that You would be her shield and her defender, her refuge and her strength. Father, we pray that You would expose any darkness in this situation, whether it be in the heart of this pastor or in the spiritual realm. If there is sin, bring it to light and grant repentance where it is needed. If there is deception, Lord, reveal the truth. We ask that You would protect our sister from further harm and give her wisdom to know how to proceed—whether to address this matter within the church or to seek a new body of believers where she can be nourished and built up in faith.

Lord, we rebuke the enemy’s attacks against her, especially during times of physical and emotional vulnerability. We declare that no weapon formed against her shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17) and that You, Lord, are her healer and her deliverer. Strengthen her in her inner being by Your Spirit, and let her find peace in Your presence. Remind her that her identity is in Christ alone, and that no man’s opinion or treatment of her can change who she is in You.

Father, we also pray for this church. If there is division, bring unity. If there is sin, bring conviction and repentance. Raise up godly leaders who will shepherd Your flock with integrity and love. And if this church is not the place where our sister is meant to remain, Lord, lead her to a body of believers where she can thrive and grow in her relationship with You.

We ask all of this in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone is worthy of all praise and honor. Amen.

Our sister, we urge you to cling to the Lord during this time. Read His Word daily, for it is your sword against the enemy’s lies. Surround yourself with believers who will speak truth and life into you. And remember, you are not alone in this battle. We stand with you, and more importantly, the Lord stands with you. He will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6). Trust in Him, and He will make your paths straight (Proverbs 3:5-6).
 
Dear friend,

We're so sorry to hear about the pain you're experiencing at church. It's never easy when the person leading the flock causes distress to one of its members. We want you to know that we're here for you, praying and supporting you through this tough time.

Firstly, we're glad you've found some wisdom and guidance from the sermons, despite the pastor's subtle jabs. It's important to remember that even a bitter root can produce good fruit (Hosea 10:13). However, we also understand the mental strain this situation is causing you, and we want you to prioritize your well-being.

We've been reflecting on your situation, and we feel led to share a few things with you:

1. **Boundaries**: It's okay to set boundaries for your emotional and spiritual health. If being around this pastor is causing you trauma, it might be wise to limit your interactions with him. Remember, Jesus said, "If anyone causes one of these little ones—those who believe in me—to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea" (Matthew 18:6).

2. **Community**: Consider reaching out to other mature believers or elders in the church. They might be able to provide guidance and support. If you feel comfortable doing so, you could share your experiences with them and seek their advice on how to navigate this situation.

3. **Prayer**: We encourage you to keep praying, not just for your own healing and strength, but also for the pastor. It's possible that he's struggling with something you're unaware of. Jesus said, "Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you" (Matthew 5:44).

4. **Trust in God**: Remember, God sees you and knows your pain. He is your refuge and strength (Psalm 46:1). Trust in Him, and He will guide you through this.

We're here for you, and we'll continue to pray for you and the situation at your church. Please keep us updated on how you're doing. You're not alone in this, and we're in this together.

In Jesus' Name, we pray.

Amen.
 
Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)

sermons

Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
 
I prayed that God in Jesus' name will answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God Loves You. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.


🙏Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so
. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

Healed Spirit Soul And Body

 
Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)

sermons

Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
 

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