Christian dealing with two toxic female co-workers! Please pray!!

[Liz2018]

Hello,

I’m a long-time believer, married, and I have a daily prayer life and read/study the word daily. Please pray for me at my work. I have to deal with such toxic people in the office. One woman I share a room with, and she constantly cusses, invades my personal space, goes through people’s desks when they are not sitting there, and she’s an atheist. She had recently said something racist towards me, and I actually had to physically leave the room to avoid saying something to her that I would regret. After I calmed down, I came back, and I gently but firmly called her out on it and she apologized.

My other co-worker, I replaced her position because she got a promotion. She recently has been very short with me, rude, throws me under the bus in group emails and in front of managers during meetings. She always cuts me down in front of others in meetings, corrects me, and now the recent thing she has been accusing me of doing things and embarrassing me in front of managers. She falsely accused me of doing something in front of my boss in a teams meeting and I kinda lost it and raised my voice to defend myself against her lies and accusations. She refuses to train me on new job tasks and then when I don’t do the task, she scolds me and I think she is telling my boss that I didn't do that particular job task.

Am I wrong for defending myself? I don’t know how I am supposed to respond to these toxic people as a believer. Am I supposed to be silent and take false accusations or defend myself?
Should I look for another job? Don’t know what God is telling me and why I am going through this…

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[Articles]

Let us first thank God for your faith and commitment to daily prayer and study of His Word. It is encouraging to see your dedication to your marriage and your walk with Christ.

In dealing with toxic co-workers, we must remember the words of Jesus in Matthew 5:44 (WEB), "But I tell you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat you and persecute you,". This does not mean we allow ourselves to be doormats, but rather, we respond with love and kindness even in difficult situations.

Regarding your first co-worker, it is commendable that you addressed her racist remark firmly yet gently. Remember Ephesians 4:29 (WEB), "Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for building up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear." Continue to be a light in that environment, and pray for her salvation. Her atheism and behavior show a need for God's love and transformation.

As for your second co-worker, it is important to defend yourself, but do so in a spirit of love and truth. Proverbs 15:1 (WEB) says, "A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." When she accuses you falsely, respond calmly and firmly with the truth. Document incidents where she has falsely accused you and share them with your manager privately, if necessary.

Pray for wisdom and discernment in handling these situations. James 1:5 (WEB) tells us, "But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him."

It is not wrong to look for another job if the environment becomes unbearable, but pray first for God's will. He may be using this situation to refine you and demonstrate His grace. Remember, God has promised in Romans 8:28 (WEB), "We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose."

Let us pray:

Dear Heavenly Father,

We come before You, lifting up our brother in Christ who is facing difficulties at his workplace. Lord, grant him the wisdom to navigate these challenges with grace and truth. Help him to respond with love and kindness to those who mistreat him, and give him the discernment to know when to speak up and when to remain silent.

Protect his heart from bitterness and resentment, and help him to forgive as You have forgiven us. We pray for his co-workers, that their hearts may be softened and that they may come to know You as their Lord and Savior.

Guide him in his career path, Lord. If it is Your will for him to remain in his current position, give him the strength and endurance to do so. If not, open up new opportunities for him.

In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We're here for you, dear friend. It's tough dealing with toxicity at work, but remember, we're called to be lights in this world, even in the most challenging environments.

For your first co-worker, keep up the good work. You handled the racist remark well, firm yet gentle. Keep praying for her, she needs God's love and transformation. For the second, stand up for yourself, but do so in love and truth. Proverbs 15:1 reminds us, "A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." Respond calmly and firmly with the truth. Document incidents and share them with your manager if necessary.

As for looking for another job, it's not wrong to consider, but let's pray first. God may be using this situation to refine you and show His grace. Remember, Romans 8:28 tells us, "We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose."

Let's pray together:

"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You, lifting up our brother in Christ. Lord, grant him wisdom to navigate these challenges with grace and truth. Help him respond with love and kindness, and give him discernment to know when to speak up and when to remain silent.

Protect his heart from bitterness and resentment, and help him to forgive as You have forgiven us. We pray for his co-workers, that their hearts may be softened, and that they may come to know You as their Lord and Savior.

Guide him in his career path, Lord. If it's Your will for him to remain in his current position, give him strength and endurance. If not, open up new opportunities for him.

In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

 

[Tovrun]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Tovrun]

I pray nothing of evil will touch your joy of the Lord. in Jesus name amen. Ps.6:
4 Turn, Lord, and deliver me;
save me because of your unfailing love.
5 Among the dead no one proclaims your name.
Who praises you from the grave?
6 I am worn out from my groaning.
All night long I flood my bed with weeping
and drench my couch with tears.
7 My eyes grow weak with sorrow;
they fail because of all my foes.
8 Away from me, all you who do evil,
for the Lord has heard my weeping.
9 The Lord has heard my cry for mercy;
the Lord accepts my prayer.
10 All my enemies will be overwhelmed with shame and anguish;
they will turn back and suddenly be put to shame.

 

[Loruover]

Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

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