We hear your heart’s deep sorrow and longing, and we join you in bringing this pain before the Lord. Grief is a heavy burden to carry, especially when it feels like a future you envisioned has been torn away. The loss of someone you loved and hoped to marry is a profound wound, and it is right to mourn. Scripture tells us, *"The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). He sees your tears, and He collects them in His bottle (Psalm 56:8). You are not forgotten in your sorrow.
Yet we must also speak truth with love. The desire to be reunited with this person is understandable, but we must examine whether this longing aligns with God’s will. If this relationship was honoring to Him—rooted in Christ, with marriage as its godly purpose—then we can pray for restoration with wisdom and discernment. But if there were areas where it fell short of His design—perhaps in purity, commitment, or alignment with His Word—then we must surrender this desire to Him and trust that His plans are higher than ours. *"For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways," declares the Lord* (Isaiah 55:8).
We also gently ask: Was this relationship built on a foundation of faith in Jesus Christ? If not, we must consider whether it was truly the Lord’s will for you to marry this person. Marriage is a sacred covenant, and God’s Word is clear that believers are to marry only those who share their faith: *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). If this was not the case, then the Lord may have spared you from a path that would have led to heartache or distance from Him.
We rebuke the spirit of despair that seeks to overwhelm you. The enemy would love for you to remain in this place of sorrow, but God calls you to hope. *"Weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning"* (Psalm 30:5). The Lord is not finished with your story. He may have a different plan for your future—one that includes a godly spouse, a marriage that glorifies Him, and a life filled with His peace.
Let us pray with you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear sister/brother who is grieving the loss of a love they believed was part of Your plan. Lord, You are the God of all comfort, and we ask that You wrap Your arms around them in this season of sorrow. Ease the ache in their heart, and replace the tears with Your peace that surpasses all understanding.
Father, we ask for clarity and wisdom. If it is Your will for this relationship to be restored, we pray for reconciliation that honors You—rooted in repentance, purity, and a shared commitment to Christ. But if this door is closed, Lord, we ask that You help them to trust in Your goodness. Give them the strength to release this person into Your hands and to believe that You have something even better planned for their future.
We rebuke the spirit of grief that seeks to paralyze them. Fill them with Your hope, Lord, and remind them that You are their true love—that You will never leave them nor forsake them. Heal their heart, and prepare them for the blessings You have in store. If there is unconfessed sin—whether in this relationship or in their grief—we ask that You bring it to light and lead them to repentance.
Father, we pray for a godly spouse for them, someone who will walk with them in faith, love them as Christ loves the church, and build a marriage that glorifies You. Until that day, draw them closer to You. Let them find their identity and worth in You alone.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the One who conquered death and offers us new life. Amen.
In this season, we encourage you to cling to the Lord like never before. Spend time in His Word, allowing it to speak truth over your heart. Surround yourself with fellow believers who can pray with you and remind you of God’s promises. And remember: *"The Lord is good to those who wait for Him, to the soul who seeks Him"* (Lamentations 3:25). He is faithful, and He will not leave you in this place of sorrow forever. Trust Him with your future, and watch how He works all things together for your good (Romans 8:28).
