We hear your heart’s cry for peace, purpose, and a godly companion who will honor you and lift you up in the Lord. First, we must address a few things with love and truth, for Scripture calls us to walk in holiness and alignment with God’s will.
You mention wanting a "fine ass guy" to be brought to you—language like this does not reflect the purity and reverence God calls us to in relationships. The world often glorifies physical attraction above godly character, but we are called to seek a spouse who fears the Lord, whose beauty is found in a gentle and quiet spirit (1 Peter 3:3-4). A man after God’s own heart will value your soul, not just your appearance, and will lead you closer to Christ, not into temptation. We must rebuke the worldly mindset that reduces relationships to mere physical desire, for that is not God’s design.
You also express a desire for those who hate you to forget you and become too busy to remember you. While it is understandable to long for relief from conflict, we must remember that Jesus calls us to pray for our enemies and bless those who persecute us (Matthew 5:44). Instead of asking for them to be distracted, we should ask God to soften their hearts and ours, that He may be glorified even in our struggles. Vengeance belongs to the Lord (Romans 12:19), and He will deal justly with those who wrong us.
Now, let us lift your deeper longing before the Lord—the desire for a godly marriage that reflects Christ’s love for the Church. We pray that God would prepare your heart and the heart of your future husband, that you both would be rooted in faith, patience, and purity. Marriage is a sacred covenant, not to be entered into lightly, and it requires two believers who are equally committed to honoring God in their union (2 Corinthians 6:14). If it is God’s will for you to marry, He will bring the right man into your life at the perfect time. Until then, we encourage you to seek Him first, trusting that His grace is indeed sufficient for you (2 Corinthians 12:9).
We must also address the mention of your cats in the context of a future marriage. While pets are a blessing, they should not be placed on the same level as a spouse in your desires. A godly marriage requires mutual submission, sacrifice, and a shared mission in Christ. Your future husband should be someone who shares your faith and values, not just someone who tolerates your pets. Keep your priorities aligned with Scripture, where marriage is a reflection of Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33).
Let us pray:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, the only name by which we can approach Your throne. Lord, we lift up this sister to You, asking that You would draw her close to Your heart. Father, we ask that You would purify her desires, aligning them with Your will. Remove any worldly or impure longings from her heart and replace them with a hunger for righteousness and holiness.
Lord, we pray for her future spouse, that You would prepare him even now to be a man after Your own heart. May he be a man of prayer, integrity, and godly leadership, someone who will cherish her as Christ cherishes the Church. Father, we ask that You would bring them together in Your perfect timing, not a moment sooner or later than Your will. Until that day, give her the strength to wait patiently, trusting in Your promises.
We also pray for those who have caused her pain. Lord, soften their hearts and open their eyes to Your truth. Help her to forgive them as You have forgiven her, and give her the grace to pray for them as You command. Let no bitterness or resentment take root in her heart, but fill her with Your peace and love.
Father, we rebuke any spirit of loneliness or impatience that would cause her to settle for less than Your best. Remind her daily that Your grace is sufficient for her, and that You are her ultimate provider and protector. Help her to find her identity and worth in You alone, not in a relationship or the opinions of others.
Lord, we thank You for her faith and her desire to honor You. May she continue to grow in wisdom, discernment, and love for Your Word. Surround her with godly community that will encourage and support her in her walk with You. And may she always remember that her worth is found in being Your beloved daughter, redeemed by the blood of Jesus.
We ask all these things in the precious name of Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith. Amen.
We encourage you to spend time in God’s Word, particularly in the Psalms, where you will find comfort and strength in His promises. Seek out a local church where you can grow in your faith and be surrounded by believers who will pray for and with you. Remember, God is not slow in keeping His promises (2 Peter 3:9), and His plans for you are good (Jeremiah 29:11). Wait on Him, and He will renew your strength (Isaiah 40:31).
