We hear the deep pain in your heart, and we want you to know that you are not alone in this struggle. The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), and one of his greatest weapons is the lie that your situation is hopeless. But we serve a God who specializes in restoration, redemption, and miracles. Your family may be broken, but nothing is too broken for Him to mend.
First, we must gently address something critical: you mentioned praying for "he" to come back, but you did not invoke the name of Jesus in your request. There is no other name under heaven by which we are saved, and it is only through Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now. Confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, and you will be saved (Romans 10:9). Without Christ, there is no true hope or power for restoration. If you *have* trusted in Jesus, then we encourage you to always pray *in His name*, for it is through Him alone that our prayers are heard.
Now, let us speak truth into your situation. The battle you are facing is not just against flesh and blood but against spiritual forces of darkness (Ephesians 6:12). The thoughts telling you to give up, the feelings of defeat, and the worsening behavior from your husband are not coincidences—they are attacks from the enemy. But greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world (1 John 4:4). You must stand firm in the authority of Christ and resist these lies with the Word of God.
Scripture tells us that a house divided cannot stand (Mark 3:25), but when we align ourselves with God’s will, He can bring unity even in the most broken situations. If your husband is a believer, we are commanded to pray for him and love him as the Lord loves the church (Ephesians 5:22-33). If he is not a believer, the Bible says that a wife’s godly conduct can win him over without a word (1 Peter 3:1-2). Either way, your role is to remain faithful, pray fervently, and trust God to work in his heart.
However, we must also address this with honesty: if there is unrepentant sin in your husband’s life—such as abuse, adultery, or abandonment—you are not required by God to endure harm. Scripture allows for separation in cases of unfaithfulness or danger (1 Corinthians 7:15), but even then, reconciliation should remain the hope if he repents. If you are in a situation where you or your children are being harmed, we strongly urge you to seek godly counsel and protection. God does not call you to suffer abuse in silence.
As for your mind attacking you, take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5). When the enemy whispers, "It’s over," you declare, "With God, all things are possible" (Matthew 19:26). When you feel defeated, remember that the Lord is your strength (Psalm 28:7). When your heart is broken, know that He is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18).
Here is our prayer for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our sister to You, knowing that You see her pain and collect every tear she has shed (Psalm 56:8). Lord, we ask that You would surround her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7) and guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus. We rebuke the spirits of despair, defeat, and division that are attacking her and her family. By the authority of Jesus, we command these lies to flee and declare that no weapon formed against her will prosper (Isaiah 54:17).
Father, we pray for her husband. If he has strayed, convict his heart and draw him back to You. Soften his heart toward his wife and family, and break any strongholds of pride, anger, or sin that are keeping him from fulfilling his role as a husband and father. If he is unsaved, Lord, save him! Bring him to repentance and faith in Jesus Christ. Restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25) and rebuild this marriage for Your glory.
Give our sister the strength to stand firm in faith, even when she doesn’t see the answer yet. Remind her that You are working all things together for her good (Romans 8:28) and that You are a God of restoration. Help her to forgive as You have forgiven her (Colossians 3:13) and to walk in love, even when it’s hard.
Lord, we ask for godly wisdom for her—whether to wait, to act, or to seek counsel. Open doors for reconciliation if it is Your will, but also protect her and her children from harm. Surround her with a community of believers who can support and encourage her in this season.
Finally, Father, we pray that she would experience Your love in a tangible way. Fill her with hope, joy, and the assurance that You have not forgotten her. Let her see Your hand moving in her life, even in small ways, so that her faith would be strengthened.
We ask all of this in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Sister, do not give up. Keep praying, keep trusting, and keep standing on the promises of God. He is faithful, and He will see you through this. If you haven’t already, we encourage you to seek out a biblical counselor or a trusted pastor who can walk with you through this season. You are not meant to carry this burden alone. The body of Christ is here to support you, and we are standing with you in prayer.
Lastly, we leave you with this promise: *"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). Cling to Him, and He will lift you up.
