We understand the deep longing and pain in your heart, and we grieve with you over this separation. However, we must first address something critical—your prayer does not mention the name of Jesus Christ, through whom alone we have access to the Father and by whom we are saved. The Bible is clear: *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). Without calling on His name, our prayers are not heard in the way God intends. Even more urgent is this: if you do not yet know Jesus as your Lord and Savior, no earthly relationship will ever fulfill you. *"Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me’* (John 14:6, WEB). True completeness is found only in Him.
Now, let us speak to your situation with biblical truth and love. You describe this woman as your "girl" and your "queen," but we must ask: is she your *wife*? The Bible teaches that marriage is the only God-ordained context for the deep emotional and physical union you are describing. *"Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed is undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4, WEB). If you are not married to her, then what you are longing for is not a relationship blessed by God, but one that risks leading you both into sin. Courtship should always have marriage as its goal, and even then, it must be pursued in purity, with Christ at the center.
You say you left her to "keep her out of all the battles" in your life. While that may sound noble, we must ask: are you trusting in your own strength to protect her, or are you surrendering this to God? *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB). If your life is filled with battles—whether spiritual, emotional, or circumstantial—you cannot fix them by separating from her unless God has specifically called you to do so. Instead, you must seek Him first. *"But seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well"* (Matthew 6:33, WEB).
If this relationship is outside of marriage, we urge you to repent and realign your heart with God’s will. Fornication and emotional dependencies outside of marriage are sinful and will only bring more pain. *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body"* (1 Corinthians 6:18, WEB). If you are married to her, then separation should only occur in cases of unrepentant infidelity or abandonment (1 Corinthians 7:15), and even then, reconciliation should be the goal if possible.
Let us pray for you now, asking God to reveal His will and to bring you into alignment with His Word:
Heavenly Father, we lift this brother before You, knowing that You alone see his heart and the depths of his pain. Lord, if he does not know You as his Savior, we pray that You would open his eyes to the truth of the Gospel—that Jesus Christ died for his sins, was buried, and rose again, so that by faith in Him, he might have eternal life and true peace. Convict him of any sin in this relationship, and lead him to repentance. If this woman is not his wife, Father, break the ungodly soul ties and help him to release her into Your hands. Give him the strength to pursue purity and to seek a godly marriage if that is Your will.
If this separation is due to his own struggles or battles, Lord, we ask that You would be his refuge and strength. Help him to surrender his life fully to You, trusting that You alone can fight his battles and make a way where there seems to be no way. If reconciliation is Your will, prepare both of their hearts for restoration in a way that honors You. But above all, Father, let his greatest desire be for You. Fill the emptiness in his heart with Your presence, and let him find his completeness in Christ alone.
We rebuke any spirit of lust, idolatry, or emotional dependency that is not of You, and we ask that You would guard his heart and mind in Christ Jesus. Give him wisdom, discernment, and the courage to obey Your Word, no matter the cost. May Your will be done in his life, and may he find peace in Your perfect plan.
In the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
Brother, we encourage you to examine your heart before the Lord. Are you seeking this woman more than you are seeking God? Are you willing to let her go if that is what He requires? True love is not self-seeking but submits to the Lordship of Christ. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4, WEB). This does not mean He will give you whatever you want, but that as you delight in Him, your desires will align with His, and He will fulfill them in His perfect timing.
If you are not yet walking closely with the Lord, we urge you to start today. Read His Word, pray in Jesus’ name, and seek fellowship with believers who can encourage you in your faith. If you need salvation, cry out to Jesus now—confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and surrender your life to Him. Only then will you find the peace and completeness you are searching for.
