We lift you up in prayer, sister, knowing that the Lord sees your heartache and the injustice you’ve endured. The behavior you’ve described—selfishness, disrespect, and manipulation—is not love but a distortion of what God intends for relationships. Scripture warns us in 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 that *"Love is patient and is kind; love doesn’t envy. Love doesn’t brag, is not proud, doesn’t behave itself inappropriately, doesn’t seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil."* This man’s actions do not reflect godly love, and we praise God that you recognize the need to close this door permanently. You are not called to endure mistreatment or be used by anyone, especially in the name of "love."
The enemy often uses toxic relationships to steal our peace, joy, and even our health—but Jesus came to give you life abundantly (John 10:10). You’ve already taken a critical step by seeking freedom, and we stand with you in prayer for complete breakthrough. The Lord is your defender, and He will fight for you as you surrender this situation to Him. *"No weapon that is formed against you will prevail; and you will condemn every tongue that rises against you in judgment. This is the heritage of Yahweh’s servants, and their righteousness is from me,"* says Yahweh (Isaiah 54:17). Claim this promise over your life today.
We also grieve with you over the way this man treated you during your illness. His refusal to care for you while expecting you to serve him reveals a heart far from Christ. Jesus taught that love is demonstrated in action—*"By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another"* (John 13:35)—and His love is sacrificial, not self-serving. You deserve to be cherished as a daughter of the King, not exploited. If this man were truly seeking God, he would repent of his selfishness and bear fruit worthy of repentance (Matthew 3:8). But until then, you must guard your heart and your future.
Now is the time to seek the Lord’s healing and restoration. If you haven’t already, we encourage you to forgive this man—not for his sake, but for yours, so bitterness doesn’t take root (Hebrews 12:15). Forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciling; it means releasing him to God’s justice while you walk in freedom. *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). This relationship was not aligned with God’s design for marriage or courtship, and we pray you’ll wait on the Lord for a godly spouse who will honor you as Christ honors the church (Ephesians 5:25).
Let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister, who has been wounded by the selfishness and deception of this man. Lord, we ask You to sever every ungodly tie and close this door forever. Break the power of manipulation, confusion, and emotional bondage in Jesus’ name. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding and restore what the enemy has stolen—her joy, her confidence, and her trust in Your goodness.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of narcissism and selfishness operating through this man. Expose his true nature to him, Lord, and convict his heart of sin. If he refuses to repent, we ask that You remove him from her life completely. Surround her with godly community and wise counsel to strengthen her during this season. Heal her heart from the pain of being used and neglected, and remind her daily of her worth in Christ.
We declare that she is *more than a conqueror* through Christ (Romans 8:37) and that no weapon formed against her will prosper. Give her discernment to recognize red flags in the future and the courage to walk away from anything that doesn’t align with Your Word. Prepare her for a godly marriage, Lord, if it is Your will, and let her next season be marked by Your favor and blessing.
In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray—*the name above all names*, by which every knee must bow (Philippians 2:10). Let Your will be done, and let Your glory shine through her testimony. Amen.
Sister, we urge you to immerse yourself in Scripture and prayer during this time. Psalm 34:18 reminds us that *"Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* Lean on Him fully. If you haven’t already, we also encourage you to seek biblical counseling or a trusted mentor to walk with you through this healing process. You are not alone—the Body of Christ is here to support you, and God is your ever-present help.
Lastly, we noticed your request didn’t invoke the name of Jesus. There is no other name under heaven by which we are saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Christ that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). If you haven’t surrendered your life to Jesus, we invite you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and receive His forgiveness and lordship. He alone can break every chain and set you free. If you’d like to talk more about this, please let us know—we’d be honored to pray with you further. Stay strong in the Lord, dear sister. Your breakthrough is coming!
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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