Beyond ### and I feel like God is Punishing Me

[Chruylorgate]

Hello,

I want to thank you for your previous prayers. I always appreciate them and it means a lot to me.

Since my last post, I still not have been able to find a job. I have applied to over 500+ jobs since March and have only had the opportunity to interview for 5 of them. I know a job is not my identity, but I have to face the reality that I have bills to pay and kids to provide for. Since March, I have burned through five months of savings, seen my debt balloon to over six figures, and my credit score decrease significantly. I am falling behind and it is only going to negatively impact me in the future.

Right now, I am taking care of my kids while I am not working and I essentially have no breaks each day. I basically have one or both kids 24/7 and I have no opportunity to clear my head mentally, to cope with not being able to find a job (right now I am turning to the world to cope and I am ashamed of it), and to even apply for jobs.

Even worse, I can tell my wife is frustrated with what has transpired and when given an opportunity to interview, my wife is essentially tells me that I can interview but that I won’t take it for a multitude of reasons. During this time, I have been verbally abused, when I ask for a break essentially it is a no because she works and I don’t, I am not able to do a men’s Bible study but she can, and has bashed my family in the process. I am not sure if this is selfish but even when I finished my PhD, there was no celebration, no congratulations. It has been that getting my PhD was a waste of time, that it was pointless to write my dissertation, and that it will do nothing to help our family.

I know the Bible says God won’t give us more than we can handle, but I don’t think I can take anymore mentally, physically, and emotionally. When my wife quit believing in me at the end of June, I figured it was over for me. I have gone to God countless times asking him to take this pain away, casted my anxieties to him, and asked to show me what he is trying to teach me and there has been nothing. I have no help, no ability to connect with others in Church, have essentially been isolated for four years from others, and separated from my side of the family.

At this point I am ready to give up. It feels like I have no purpose and it feels like God has given up on me. I asked as I was driving not that long ago for God’s help, that I need help with everything going on, and if he can show me if I have any purpose here. I just hope he can.

Please pray for me.

Thank you.

 

[Articles]

We hear the deep anguish in your heart, and we want you to know that you are not alone in this struggle. The burdens you carry—financial stress, marital strife, emotional exhaustion, and the weight of feeling abandoned—are heavy, but we serve a God who is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). Let us first address something critical: you mentioned asking God for help but did not invoke the name of Jesus in your request. There is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved, and it is only through Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father (Acts 4:12, John 14:6). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now, for He alone is your hope and salvation. Repent of your sins, believe in Him, and you will be saved (Romans 10:9-10). If you have already placed your faith in Christ, then we encourage you to approach the throne of grace *in His name*, for it is there you will find mercy and grace to help in your time of need (Hebrews 4:16).

Your feelings of being punished by God are understandable in light of your suffering, but let us gently correct this perspective with truth. God does discipline those He loves (Hebrews 12:6), but His discipline is never without purpose—it is meant to refine us, draw us closer to Him, and produce the fruit of righteousness. However, the struggles you face may not be punishment but rather the result of living in a fallen world, spiritual warfare, or consequences of decisions made by you or others. Jesus warned us that in this world we *will* have trouble, but He has overcome the world (John 16:33). Your trials do not mean God has abandoned you; in fact, He may be preparing you for something greater than you can imagine. Consider Joseph, who endured betrayal, slavery, and imprisonment before God exalted him to save many lives (Genesis 50:20). Or think of Job, who lost everything yet remained faithful, and God restored him abundantly (Job 42:10-12). Your story is not over, and God is still at work.

Now, let us address the specific struggles you’ve shared. First, your unemployment and financial hardship are real and pressing. The Bible tells us that God provides for our needs (Matthew 6:25-34), but it also calls us to diligence and wisdom. You have applied for hundreds of jobs, and while that shows effort, we encourage you to seek God’s guidance in your job search. Ask Him to open the right doors and close the wrong ones. Consider reaching out to your church or trusted believers for networking opportunities, resume reviews, or job leads. Proverbs 15:22 says, "Where there is no counsel, plans fail; but in a multitude of counselors they are established." Isolation is not God’s design for His people. If you have been separated from fellowship, we urge you to take steps—however small—to reconnect with a biblical, Christ-centered church. You need the body of Christ, and the body of Christ needs you (1 Corinthians 12:12-27).

We must also address the state of your marriage, for it is clear there is deep brokenness. Marriage is a covenant before God, and both husbands and wives are called to love, honor, and submit to one another in Christ (Ephesians 5:22-33). The verbal abuse, lack of encouragement, and refusal to acknowledge your achievements are not aligned with biblical love. A wife is called to respect her husband (Ephesians 5:33), and a husband is called to love his wife as Christ loved the church—sacrificially and selflessly. If your wife is not a believer or is walking in disobedience to God’s Word, this adds another layer of difficulty, but it does not release you from your responsibility to love her as Christ does. However, this does not mean you should endure abuse. If her words or actions are harmful to you or your children, you must seek wise counsel—perhaps from a pastor or biblical counselor—to address this in a godly manner. You cannot change her heart, but you can pray for her and model Christlike love, even in suffering.

We are deeply concerned by your admission that you are "turning to the world to cope." Brother, this is dangerous ground. The world offers temporary escapes—whether through entertainment, substances, relationships, or other distractions—but these will only deepen your despair. Jesus is the only true source of comfort and peace (John 14:27). Turn to Him in repentance for seeking solace anywhere else. Cast your anxieties on Him *afresh*, for He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7). Replace worldly coping mechanisms with prayer, Scripture, and fellowship. Even if you feel you have no time, start small: read a Psalm a day, listen to the Bible while caring for your children, or pray in the shower. God’s Word is living and active, and it will sustain you (Hebrews 4:12).

Your feelings of hopelessness and the thought of giving up are serious. Satan would love nothing more than for you to believe the lie that you have no purpose or that God has forgotten you. But God’s Word declares that you are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and He has plans for you—plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11). Your purpose is not tied to your job, your PhD, or even your role as a husband and father, though these are important. Your primary purpose is to glorify God and enjoy Him forever. Even in this season of suffering, you can bring Him glory by trusting Him, loving your family, and serving others. Your PhD is not a waste—God can use your knowledge and skills in ways you cannot yet see. Do not despise small beginnings (Zechariah 4:10). Perhaps God is preparing you for a role you haven’t considered or a ministry to others who are struggling.

Finally, let us pray for you with urgency and faith:

Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our brother who is weary, burdened, and feeling forgotten. Lord, You see his struggles—the financial strain, the marital discord, the emotional exhaustion, and the isolation. You know the depth of his pain and the weight of his responsibilities. We ask You to intervene supernaturally in his life. Provide for his needs, Lord, according to Your riches in glory (Philippians 4:19). Open doors for employment that align with Your will, and give him favor in the eyes of those who can offer him work. Grant him wisdom to manage his resources and debt, and restore what has been lost.

Father, we pray for his marriage. Soften his wife’s heart and turn her toward You. If she does not know You, Lord, draw her to salvation. If she is a believer but walking in disobedience, convict her by Your Spirit and restore her to a place of love, respect, and encouragement. Heal the wounds in their marriage, and help them both to submit to You and to one another in Christ. Protect their children from the effects of this strife, and let their home be a place of peace.

Lord, we rebuke the spirit of despair and hopelessness that is attacking our brother. Replace it with Your peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:7). Remind him that You are near, that You have not abandoned him, and that You are working all things together for his good (Romans 8:28). Give him strength for each day, and renew his mind with Your truth. Help him to turn away from worldly coping mechanisms and to find his comfort in You alone.

Father, we ask that You restore his joy and purpose. Show him how to glorify You in this season, even when it is hard. Surround him with godly community—brothers and sisters in Christ who can encourage him, pray for him, and walk alongside him. Break the isolation and bring him into fellowship where he can be built up and where he can serve others.

We pray for his children, Lord. Bless them and protect them. Use this season to draw their family closer to You. Let them see their father’s faith and perseverance, and may they come to know You deeply.

Most of all, Father, we ask that You reveal Yourself to our brother in a powerful way. Let him sense Your presence, hear Your voice, and know beyond a shadow of a doubt that You are with him. Remind him that his identity is not in his job, his degrees, or his circumstances, but in Christ alone. You are his Provider, his Healer, his Redeemer, and his Hope.

We thank You, Lord, for hearing our prayers. We trust You to act on behalf of our brother, and we give You all the glory. In the mighty and precious name of Jesus we pray, Amen.

Brother, we urge you to hold on. Do not give up. God is with you, even when you cannot feel Him. Keep seeking Him, keep praying, and keep trusting. Reach out to your church or a trusted believer for support—you were not meant to walk this path alone. We are praying for you, and we believe God is going to move mightily in your life. Stay faithful. Your breakthrough is coming.

 

[hostadmin]

Dear friend,

We hear your cry and we're here for you. We know the weight you're carrying, and we want you to know that you're not alone. God sees you, and He cares deeply about what you're going through.

First, let's turn to God in prayer. We believe that He wants to meet you right where you are. Let's ask Him to reveal Himself to you, to comfort you, and to guide you. Let's ask Him to provide for your needs, to open doors for employment, and to heal your marriage. Let's also pray for your children, that they may be blessed and protected.

Now, let's talk about a few things. We know that it's hard to find a job, especially when you have a family to provide for. But remember, God is in control. He sees your situation, and He cares about it. Trust in Him. Keep applying for jobs, keep networking, and keep seeking His will. He will make a way.

As for your marriage, we know it's tough. But remember, God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). He wants you to stay together, to work through your differences, and to love each other as He loves us. It won't be easy, but with God, all things are possible (Matthew 19:26).

Lastly, we want to encourage you to keep going. We know it's hard, but God is with you. He hasn't abandoned you. He's working everything out for your good (Romans 8:28). Keep trusting Him, keep praying, and keep living for Him.

Remember, your purpose isn't tied to your job or your circumstances. Your purpose is to glorify God and enjoy Him forever. He has a plan for you, and He will reveal it in His perfect timing.

Keep fighting the good fight. We're praying for you, and we believe that God is going to turn things around for you.

In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

 

[Abundantly blessed]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[Emborsuliesh]

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Emborsuliesh]

Hello,

I want to thank you for your previous prayers. I always appreciate them and it means a lot to me.

Since my last post, I still not have been able to find a job. I have applied to over 500+ jobs since March and have only had the opportunity to interview for 5 of them. I know a job is not my identity, but I have to face the reality that I have bills to pay and kids to provide for. Since March, I have burned through five months of savings, seen my debt balloon to over six figures, and my credit score decrease significantly. I am falling behind and it is only going to negatively impact me in the future.

Right now, I am taking care of my kids while I am not working and I essentially have no breaks each day. I basically have one or both kids 24/7 and I have no opportunity to clear my head mentally, to cope with not being able to find a job (right now I am turning to the world to cope and I am ashamed of it), and to even apply for jobs.

Even worse, I can tell my wife is frustrated with what has transpired and when given an opportunity to interview, my wife is essentially tells me that I can interview but that I won’t take it for a multitude of reasons. During this time, I have been verbally abused, when I ask for a break essentially it is a no because she works and I don’t, I am not able to do a men’s Bible study but she can, and has bashed my family in the process. I am not sure if this is selfish but even when I finished my PhD, there was no celebration, no congratulations. It has been that getting my PhD was a waste of time, that it was pointless to write my dissertation, and that it will do nothing to help our family.

I know the Bible says God won’t give us more than we can handle, but I don’t think I can take anymore mentally, physically, and emotionally. When my wife quit believing in me at the end of June, I figured it was over for me. I have gone to God countless times asking him to take this pain away, casted my anxieties to him, and asked to show me what he is trying to teach me and there has been nothing. I have no help, no ability to connect with others in Church, have essentially been isolated for four years from others, and separated from my side of the family.

At this point I am ready to give up. It feels like I have no purpose and it feels like God has given up on me. I asked as I was driving not that long ago for God’s help, that I need help with everything going on, and if he can show me if I have any purpose here. I just hope he can.

Please pray for me.

Thank you.

Hello friend. That is quite the story. I have a lot of empathy and compassion for all you are dealing with. It sounds challenging, exhausting and clearly heavy on your heart and mind and spirit.

I will pray for a miracle and breakthrough on your behalf and ask that God provides for you numerous blessings to ease your mind and bring you peace. I ask that your FAITH while currently being tested, to also be strengthened. May your angels, guides and God's glory touch your life going forward and guide your path with light for better days, things and circumstances.

I will uplift you in prayer so that God can reveal to you how covered, protected and loved you truly are, despite how you might feel. God bless you fully and favorably friend. And so it is. Amen

 

[The Encourager]

I prayed that God in Jesus' name will answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

Healed Spirit Soul And Body​

Healed Spirit Soul And Body

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[Naliogate]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)

sermons

Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”