We hear your heart’s desire for a godly legacy—a large family raised in the fear of the Lord, a marriage that reflects Christ’s love for His Church, and a life overflowing with the Holy Spirit’s power. These are beautiful and biblical longings, and we join you in lifting them before the throne of God. Yet we must first address a critical foundation: your request does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom *all* prayers must be offered to the Father. There is no other name under heaven by which we are saved, no other mediator between God and man (Acts 4:12, 1 Timothy 2:5). Without faith in Christ’s finished work on the cross, even our most righteous desires are as filthy rags (Isaiah 64:6). So we urge you—if you have not already—to repent of your sins, place your full trust in Jesus alone for salvation, and submit every area of your life to His lordship. Only then can you walk in the "perfect right standing with God" you seek, for it is *His* righteousness imputed to us, not our own (2 Corinthians 5:21).
Now, regarding your longing for a large family: children are a heritage from the Lord (Psalm 127:3), and we rejoice that you desire to steward this gift for His glory. However, we must gently but firmly rebuke the worldly emphasis on being the "sexiest husband" or fixating on libido as the path to godly fruitfulness. The Bible never ties marital intimacy to physical attractiveness or performance, but to *covenant faithfulness*, sacrificial love, and mutual sanctification (Ephesians 5:25–33). A husband’s "sexiness" in God’s eyes is measured by his holiness, humility, and leadership in Christ—not by fleeting cultural standards. Similarly, while we pray for your physical health and fertility, we caution against idolatry of the body or placing ultimate hope in biological outcomes. Sarah laughed at God’s promise of a child in her old age (Genesis 18:12), yet He opened her womb *in His timing*. Hannah wept for a son, and the Lord gave her Samuel—but first, He refined her heart (1 Samuel 1). Your prayer for the "7 Spirits of God" (Revelation 4:5) is wise, for it is the Spirit who produces fruit like self-control, patience, and love (Galatians 5:22–23)—qualities far more vital to fatherhood than mere virility.
As for sinning "no more," we commend your zeal but remind you: this side of glory, we will battle indwelling sin (Romans 7:15–25). Victory comes not by our resolve, but by abiding in Christ (John 15:5) and walking in the Spirit (Galatians 5:16). Confess specific sins daily, flee temptation (2 Timothy 2:22), and cling to the cross where your sin was *already* atoned for.
**Let us pray:**
Heavenly Father, we lift this brother before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we may approach Your throne. Lord, if he has not yet surrendered fully to You, *convict him now*. Strip away every vestige of self-righteousness and reveal the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus as Lord (Philippians 3:8). Grant him repentance leading to life, that he may be clothed in Your righteousness alone.
For his desire for a godly family, we ask You to prepare him as a *spiritual* father first—rooted in Your Word, overflowing with the Spirit’s fruit, and marked by integrity. If it is Your will, restore and multiply his physical vitality as You did for Abraham and Sarah, but let his ultimate trust be in *You*, not in sperm counts or human strength. Teach him to lead his future wife with the selfless love of Christ, that their marriage may be a picture of the Gospel. Guard his heart from lust, vanity, or idolatry of the body, and let his "sexiness" be the radiance of a life hidden in You (Colossians 3:3).
Fill him afresh with Your Spirit—the Spirit of wisdom, understanding, counsel, might, knowledge, and fear of the Lord (Isaiah 11:2). Let him walk in the truth of Your Word, not in legalistic striving, but in the freedom and power of the cross. Break every chain of sin in his life, and when he stumbles, remind him that Your grace is sufficient (2 Corinthians 12:9).
Prepare the heart of his future wife even now—a woman of noble character who fears You (Proverbs 31:30), that together they may raise arrows for Your quiver (Psalm 127:4). Let their home be a lighthouse of Your truth in a broken world.
And Father, if there is any area of his life not submitted to You—any hidden sin, ungodly motivation, or misplaced trust—*expose it*. We ask for holy fire to purify his desires, that he may seek first Your kingdom and righteousness, trusting You to add all else as You see fit (Matthew 6:33).
In the precious name of Jesus, our Redeemer and Hope, we pray. Amen.
**Final exhortation:**
Brother, meditate on Psalm 37:4: *"Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* The order matters—*first* delight in Him, *then* trust Him with your desires. Study godly marriages in Scripture (e.g., Isaac and Rebekah, Aquila and Priscilla) and ask the Lord to shape your vision of manhood after His own heart. Flee pornography, sensual media, or anything that distorts God’s design for intimacy. And remember: even if your family looks different than you imagine, God’s plans for you are good (Jeremiah 29:11). Walk in obedience today, and leave the results to Him.
