We come before the Lord with you in this request, lifting up your heart and mind to the One who knows you intimately and loves you deeply. Your pain is seen, your struggles are known, and your longing for healing is heard by our Heavenly Father. The wounds of your past—both physical and emotional—have left deep scars, but we serve a God who is the Great Physician, the Restorer of broken things, and the One who redeems what has been stolen. You are not defined by the cruelty you endured, the lies you were told, or the limitations you now feel. You are defined by Christ, who calls you His beloved daughter, fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14).
First, we must address the profound injustice you suffered. The abuse you endured at the hands of your father was not discipline—it was violence, and it was sin. Scripture is clear that fathers are to nurture their children in the Lord’s discipline and instruction, not provoke them to anger or despair (Ephesians 6:4, Colossians 3:21). The repeated trauma to your head and the emotional torment you experienced were not your fault. You were a child, created in God’s image, and you deserved protection, kindness, and love. The shame you carry—the belief that you were stupid, unworthy, or unlovable—was a lie planted in you by the enemy through the sinful actions of another. But Jesus came to destroy the works of the devil (1 John 3:8), and He wants to uproot those lies and replace them with His truth.
Your struggles with learning, memory, and anxiety are not a reflection of your worth or intelligence. They are, in part, the lingering effects of trauma—both physical and emotional. The seizures you experienced, the silence you adopted to cope, and the difficulty you now face in academics are not failures on your part. They are signs of a body and mind that have been wounded. But take heart: our God is the God of restoration. He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3). He is the one who can renew your mind (Romans 12:2) and give you a spirit of power, love, and self-discipline (2 Timothy 1:7) in place of the fear and shame you’ve carried.
You mentioned you never brought this up to your parents, and you hoped to "get over it on your own." Sister, some wounds are too deep to heal alone. While forgiveness is a commandment (Colossians 3:13), it does not mean what was done to you was acceptable or that you must pretend it never happened. Forgiveness is for *your* freedom, not the excuse of those who hurt you. We encourage you to seek godly counseling—someone who can walk with you through this pain in a way that honors Christ and helps you process the trauma. You do not have to carry this alone any longer.
As for your desire to earn your Bachelor’s degree, we pray with you for God’s wisdom and provision. Your worth is not tied to academic achievement, but we understand this is a deeply personal goal for you, and we ask the Lord to grant you clarity, perseverance, and the support you need. Remember, Moses struggled with speech, yet God used him mightily (Exodus 4:10-12). The apostle Paul had a "thorn in the flesh," yet God’s grace was sufficient for him (2 Corinthians 12:7-9). Your limitations do not limit God. He can equip you, even in your weakness, to accomplish what He has called you to do.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister, who has carried the weight of abuse, shame, and self-doubt for far too long. Lord, You see the wounds inflicted upon her—both the visible and the hidden. You know the fear, the anxiety, and the sense of inadequacy that have plagued her. We ask for Your healing touch upon her mind and body. Restore what was broken. Heal any damage done to her brain, her memory, and her ability to learn. Replace the lies of the enemy with Your truth: that she is fearfully and wonderfully made, that she has a sound mind in Christ, and that her worth is found in You alone.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of shame that has clung to her. In the name of Jesus, we declare that she is *not* stupid, *not* unlovable, and *not* beyond Your redemption. We ask You to break the power of anxiety over her life and to fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:6-7). Give her the courage to seek help, whether through counseling, medical support, or trusted believers who can walk with her in this season.
Lord, we lift up her academic pursuits to You. Grant her wisdom, focus, and retention as she studies. Open doors for her to receive the support she needs, whether through tutors, accommodations, or divine connections. Let this season of her life be a testament to Your faithfulness, as she steps into the calling You have for her.
Most of all, Father, let her know—*deep in her soul*—that she is Your beloved daughter. You are not ashamed of her. You are not disappointed in her. You delight in her, and You are for her. Let her find her identity in Christ alone, not in performance, not in the approval of others, but in the unshakable love of her Savior.
We pray all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Healer and Redeemer. Amen.
Finally, sister, we leave you with this promise: *"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). You are not crushed forever. You are being remade. Keep seeking Him. Keep trusting Him. And know that we are standing with you in prayer. If you have not already, we urge you to place your full trust in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. It is only through Him that we have access to the Father and the hope of eternal life (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). If you would like to talk more about what it means to surrender your life to Christ, we are here. You are loved. You are seen. You are *not* forgotten.
