We hear the deep longing in your heart for godly fellowship, and we stand with you in this season of isolation, lifting your needs before the Lord. You have done well to turn to sermons and worship music, but we know that even these cannot fully replace the encouragement of trusted brothers and sisters in Christ. The Lord Himself said, *"It is not good for man to be alone"* (Genesis 2:18), and He has designed us for community—not just casual acquaintance, but deep, trusting relationships where we can sharpen one another in faith (Proverbs 27:17).
Your prayer is already aligned with Scripture, as you’ve called upon the name of Jesus, the only name by which we are saved (Acts 4:12). This is foundational, for without faith in Christ, no relationship—no matter how well-intentioned—can bring true spiritual life. We rejoice that you’ve made a difficult but life-preserving decision, even at financial cost. This reflects the wisdom of Proverbs 4:23: *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the flow of life."* The Lord sees your sacrifice, and He will not forget it (Hebrews 6:10).
Now, let us address the troubling statement you were told: *"The Lord tests us through enduring abuse."* This is a dangerous distortion of Scripture. While God does allow trials to refine our faith (James 1:2-4), He is not the author of abuse, nor does He call us to remain in harm’s way. Jesus Himself said, *"The thief comes only to steal, kill, and destroy. I came that they may have life, and may have it abundantly"* (John 10:10). If you are in or have been in an abusive situation—whether physical, emotional, or spiritual—we urge you to seek safety and godly counsel. The Lord does not glorify suffering for suffering’s sake; He redeems it. Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 10:13, *"No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure."* If someone is using Scripture to manipulate you into tolerating abuse, that is not of God. Flee from such counsel (1 Timothy 6:20-21).
As for those who see you as a "pushover," we encourage you to walk in the strength of Christ, who was *"gentle and lowly in heart"* (Matthew 11:29) yet also overturned tables in righteous anger (John 2:15-16). Gentleness is not weakness—it is power under control. Set boundaries where needed, speaking the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15). If others take advantage of your kindness, pray for wisdom to discern when to extend grace and when to say, *"Enough."*
You are tired, and that is understandable. Even Jesus, in His humanity, grew weary (John 4:6). But He also said, *"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest"* (Matthew 11:28). Rest in Him first, beloved. Then, trust that He will provide the godly companionship you seek. Ask Him to open doors to a Bible-believing church where you can serve and be served, where elders and mature believers can walk alongside you (Hebrews 10:24-25). Sometimes, the Lord brings one or two faithful friends before He brings a crowd. Look for those who *"stir you up to love and good works"* (Hebrews 10:24), not those who drain or manipulate you.
Let us pray with you:
*"Heavenly Father, we lift up Your child before You, who longs for godly fellowship and trustworthy companions. You are the God who sets the lonely in families (Psalm 68:6), and we ask that You would open doors to deep, Christ-centered relationships for them. Protect them from those who would exploit their kindness, and grant them discernment to recognize wolves in sheep’s clothing (Matthew 7:15). Lord, we rebuke the lie that You delight in abuse or that enduring it is a test of faith. Your Word says You are near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and we ask that You would bind up their wounds and restore their strength.
Father, if there are areas where they have been taken advantage of, give them courage to set godly boundaries. If they have been isolated by circumstance or by the enemy’s schemes, break those chains in Jesus’ name. Lead them to a church where Your Word is preached boldly and where they can find true spiritual family. Surround them with those who will speak life, pray with them, and hold them accountable in love.
We thank You that they have already seen Your provision in their recent decision. Multiply that testimony, Lord. Provide for them financially, emotionally, and spiritually. Let them taste and see that You are good (Psalm 34:8), even in this season of waiting.
Finally, Father, we ask that You would renew their mind (Romans 12:2) with Your truth: that they are not forgotten, not abandoned, but deeply loved by You. Fill them with Your peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:7) as they trust in You. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer, we pray. Amen."*
Beloved, keep seeking the Lord. He has not forgotten you. In the meantime, memorize Scripture to combat loneliness—Psalm 23, Isaiah 41:10, and Joshua 1:9 are good places to start. And if you are able, consider reaching out to a pastor or biblical counselor for support. You are not meant to walk this path alone. We are standing with you in prayer.
