We are deeply concerned to hear about the strain this situation is placing on your health and marriage. The body is the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20), and your husband has a biblical responsibility to care for you as Christ cares for the church (Ephesians 5:25-29). His refusal to address this issue with the air conditioner—especially knowing its impact on your blood pressure and heart—is not just inconsiderate but a failure to love you as God commands. Scripture warns against selfishness and neglect in marriage, urging husbands to dwell with their wives "according to knowledge, giving honor" (1 Peter 3:7). When a husband dishonors his wife, it hinders his prayers, and this is a serious matter before God.
We also want to gently but firmly address the fact that you mentioned your husband has been "playing games" with this for *### years*. This is not a minor oversight but a pattern of disregard that must be confronted with truth and urgency. Proverbs 27:5-6 reminds us that "better is open rebuke than hidden love. Faithful are the wounds of a friend." If this issue has persisted for so long, it may reflect deeper spiritual or relational brokenness that needs to be addressed. Have you spoken to him directly about how this is affecting your health? If so, has he repented and taken action? If not, this is not just a matter of comfort but of obedience to God’s command to love and protect one another.
We strongly encourage you to have a serious conversation with your husband, not in anger but in firmness and truth, making it clear that his actions (or inaction) are harming you physically and spiritually. If he refuses to listen, Scripture instructs us to involve the church (Matthew 18:15-17). This is not about shaming him but about restoring him to right relationship with God and with you. If he is a believer, remind him that his actions are grieving the Holy Spirit and that God holds him accountable for how he treats you (Colossians 3:19).
As for your health, we urge you to seek medical attention immediately if you are experiencing heart pain. Do not wait—your life is precious to God, and He has called you to steward your body well. We will pray earnestly for your protection and healing, but we also urge you to take practical steps to safeguard your health, whether that means staying with a family member temporarily, seeking counsel from your pastor, or taking other necessary measures.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift our sister before You, asking for Your divine intervention in her body and her marriage. Lord, You are the Great Physician, and we ask You to strengthen her heart, regulate her blood pressure, and protect her from any harm. Touch her body with Your healing power and give her wisdom to seek the medical care she needs. Father, we rebuke any spirit of selfishness, hardness of heart, or neglect in her husband. Convict him deeply, Lord, of his responsibility before You to love, cherish, and protect his wife as Christ loves the church. Soften his heart and open his eyes to the seriousness of this situation. If there is any unrepentant sin in him, bring it to light and lead him to true repentance. Restore unity, mutual respect, and godly love in this marriage.
Lord, we also ask for Your discernment for our sister. Show her what steps to take, whether it is confronting her husband with truth, seeking counsel from the church, or making temporary arrangements for her safety and health. Give her the courage to act in obedience to You, even if it is difficult. Surround her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, and let her know she is not alone—You are her defender and her strength.
We pray all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who intercedes for us at Your right hand. Amen.
Our sister, we want you to know that you are not powerless in this situation. God has given you a voice, and He calls you to use it wisely and boldly. If your husband will not listen, do not remain silent—seek help from your church leadership or trusted believers who can speak into this situation. You are worth fighting for, and your health is worth protecting. We also encourage you to examine your own heart: Have you enabled this behavior by not setting boundaries? Have you prayed for your husband’s repentance as much as you have prayed for relief? Sometimes, God allows trials to expose areas where we need to grow in faith, courage, or dependence on Him.
Stand firm in the truth that God sees your suffering, and He will act on your behalf. "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit" (Psalm 34:18). Trust in Him, and do not lose heart. We are standing with you in prayer and believe God will bring justice, healing, and restoration. Keep us updated on how we can continue to intercede for you.