We remember you in prayer, our sister, and we are grateful you have returned to share what has been weighing on your heart. Though your name may have changed, the Lord knows you intimately—He has counted every tear you’ve shed and heard every cry of your heart. It is no small thing that you have carried this burden for so long, and we want you to know that your pain has not gone unnoticed by God. He is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18).
First, we must address something critical: your words reveal that your heart has been deeply entangled in a love that is not reciprocated, and we sense the weight of emotional and possibly spiritual bondage in this. The longing you describe—the waiting for a call or text, the daily dying inside—speaks of an idolization of this person and an emotional dependence that no human being was ever meant to bear. This is not the love God intends for His children. The Bible warns us, *"Do not love the world nor the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him"* (1 John 2:15). While this verse speaks broadly of worldly desires, it applies here too: when our affections are fixed on someone who does not honor God or reciprocate godly love, we risk placing them above the Lord Himself. This is a form of idolatry, and it will only lead to more pain.
We also must ask: Is this man a believer in Jesus Christ? The Word of God is clear that we are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). If he does not share your faith, then this attachment is built on a foundation that cannot stand. Even if he is a believer, your description of "unrequited love" suggests this is not a relationship grounded in mutual commitment, purity, or the pursuit of marriage as God designed it. The Bible does not endorse emotional attachments outside of marriage, especially when they lead to such deep sorrow. Such longings, when unchecked, can open the door to sinful thoughts, bitterness, and even fornication in the heart (Matthew 5:28). Jesus said, *"Whoever looks at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart."* While this verse speaks to men, the principle applies to all: dwelling on ungodly desires—even emotional ones—is sin.
You have suffered greatly, and we do not minimize that. But we must lovingly rebuke the idea that this pain is something you must continue to carry. The Lord did not create you to live in bondage to another person’s approval or affection. He created you to find your identity, worth, and fulfillment in *Him alone*. Jesus said, *"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart; and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light"* (Matthew 11:28-30). Your rest is not in this man’s text or call—it is in surrendering this to Christ.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift our sister before You, knowing that You see the depths of her heart and the pain she has carried for so long. Lord, we ask that You break every ungodly soul tie and emotional bondage that has kept her bound to this situation. Father, forgive her for any idolatry or sinful longing, and cleanse her heart by the blood of Jesus. We rebuke the spirit of rejection, heartbreak, and despair that has tormented her, and we command it to leave in the name of Jesus Christ. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding and remind her that her worth is found in You alone.
Lord, if this man is not the one You have for her, we ask that You remove every trace of him from her heart and mind. Close every door that needs to be closed and redirect her affections wholly to You. If there is any open door in her life—through sin, ungodly agreements, or emotional dependence—we ask that You reveal it to her and give her the strength to repent and walk away. Surround her with godly community that will speak truth and life into her. Restore her joy, Lord, and let her find her satisfaction in You.
Father, we also pray that You would prepare her for a godly marriage if it is Your will. Let her heart be guarded and her eyes fixed on You, so that if You bring a husband into her life, it will be a man who loves You above all else and who will lead her spiritually. Until then, teach her to be content in You, to serve You wholeheartedly, and to trust in Your timing.
We declare freedom over her life in the name of Jesus. Let this season of pain be turned into a testimony of Your faithfulness. Fill her with Your Holy Spirit and let her walk in victory. We ask all these things in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Our sister, we urge you to take active steps toward healing. Delete any messages, photos, or reminders of this person that may tempt you to dwell on the past. Fill your mind with Scripture—meditate on verses like Philippians 4:8: *"Finally, brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are honest, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report; if there is any virtue, and if there is any praise, think about these things."* Replace the lies of rejection with the truth of God’s love for you (Romans 8:38-39). Seek accountability with mature believers who can pray with you and help you walk in freedom.
If you have not already, surrender this fully to Jesus. Ask Him to take this burden from you and to heal your heart. He is faithful, and He will do it. You are not meant to live in this cycle of pain. The Lord has so much more for you—peace, joy, and a future filled with His purposes. Trust Him, even when it hurts. He will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6).
We are standing with you in this. Keep seeking the Lord, and do not look back. Your breakthrough is near.
Hello, brother! It's so good to receive your message after a long gap. And thank you for remembering me... Means a lot! Well, today I'm here to let you all know that I have already left that last in June and moved on happily. And I strongly believe that the Almighty has someone far more better guy in my life, someone who is very trustworthy, god fearing, deserving, empathetic and understanding (Touchwood). We have been together for a couple of months and I am eternally grateful to God for sending me such an unexpected blessing. I honestly can feel he's my answered prayer. I can't thank God enough for this marvellous gift after 13 years of 2 unsuccessful love in my past. With all my heart, I want you all to pray for us on this journey and to bless us in whatever we do in our life, by sharing this precious bond. We both shall be ever grateful to you all.
Putting my entire trust in the loving hands of Lord Jesus Christ. In Jesus' mighty name I pray, amen.
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