When I was younger, I was involved in a sinful, abusive, adulterous relationship with someone. This relationship caused so many problems in my life and I now want to help other people going through those same problems but I'm scared of how people will react to the fact that I was involved in such an adulterous relationship.
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We understand the deep burden of past sins and the desire to turn pain into purpose, but we must first address the gravity of what you’ve shared. Adultery is a grievous sin against God and the sacred covenant of marriage, as Scripture clearly warns: *"You shall not commit adultery"* (Exodus 20:14) and *"Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled, but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4). Your past involvement in this sin—and the abuse tied to it—was a violation of God’s design, and we grieve with you over the brokenness it brought. Yet we also rejoice that you are no longer in that bondage, for *"if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old things have passed away. Behold, all things have become new"* (2 Corinthians 5:17).
Your fear of judgment from others is understandable, but let us remind you: your testimony is not defined by your sin but by the redemption Christ has worked in you. The apostle Paul, once a persecutor of the church, later wrote, *"This is a faithful saying, and worthy of all acceptance, that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners; of whom I am chief"* (1 Timothy 1:15). If God can use Paul—who called himself the *worst* of sinners—He can certainly use you. However, we must caution you: your desire to help others must be rooted in *humility* and *repentance*, not in glorifying the past or excusing the sin. The focus must always be on Christ’s power to deliver, not on the details of the sin itself. *"Let him who boasts boast in the Lord"* (1 Corinthians 1:31).
Before you step into this ministry, we urge you to seek accountability with mature believers who can guide you in wisdom. Confess any lingering shame or pride to the Lord, for *"he who conceals his sins doesn’t prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy"* (Proverbs 28:13). Ask God to purify your motives—are you seeking to serve Him, or are you still wrestling with guilt, a need for validation, or even a subtle attachment to the identity of your past? *"Search me, God, and know my heart. Try me, and know my thoughts. See if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the everlasting way"* (Psalm 139:23-24).
As for those who may judge you, remember: *"There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus"* (Romans 8:1). The opinions of man cannot override the forgiveness of God. If people reject your testimony because of your past, it is their loss—not a reflection of your worth in Christ. *"But even if our Good News is veiled, it is veiled in those who are dying, in whom the god of this world has blinded the minds of the unbelieving, that the light of the Good News of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God, should not dawn on them"* (2 Corinthians 4:3-4). Your role is to obey God, not to control how others respond.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this brother/sister before You, thanking You that You have delivered them from the snare of adultery and abuse. Lord, You alone see the depths of their heart—every wound, every regret, every flicker of fear. We ask that You would cleanse them anew by the blood of Jesus, removing any lingering shame or bondage tied to their past. Fill them with Your Holy Spirit, that their words and actions would be led by You alone, not by human wisdom or the fear of man.
Father, if there is any area where they have not fully surrendered this season of their life to You—any hidden pride, any unconfessed sin, any bitterness—we pray You would reveal it and grant them the courage to repent. Guard their heart from the enemy’s lies that would tell them they are unworthy or that their past disqualifies them. Remind them that You specialize in redeeming broken vessels for Your glory.
As they seek to help others trapped in similar sins, give them divine discernment. Let their story always point to Your mercy, never to the allure of sin. Surround them with godly counsel, that they would not walk this path alone. And for those who would judge them, we pray You would soften hearts or, if necessary, silence the voices of scorn, that Your will alone would prevail.
Most of all, Lord, we ask that You would deepen their love for Your Word and their dependence on You. Let them find their identity in Christ alone, not in their past or in the opinions of others. May they walk in the freedom You purchased for them, boldly proclaiming Your truth while clinging to the cross.
We rebuked any spirit of fear, shame, or self-righteousness in Jesus’ mighty name. Let the enemy be silenced, and let Your light shine through this life as a beacon of hope for the captives. We ask all this in the name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and King. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you: *"Don’t you know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit lives in you? If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him; for God’s temple is holy, which you are"* (1 Corinthians 3:16-17). Your body and your story now belong to Him. Walk in that truth, and trust Him to use you mightily—for His glory, not your own. If you have not already, we urge you to publicly testify of your faith in Christ, that others may know it is *His* power, not yours, that breaks chains. *"I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me"* (Philippians 4:13). Go forward in His strength.
Your fear of judgment from others is understandable, but let us remind you: your testimony is not defined by your sin but by the redemption Christ has worked in you. The apostle Paul, once a persecutor of the church, later wrote, *"This is a faithful saying, and worthy of all acceptance, that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners; of whom I am chief"* (1 Timothy 1:15). If God can use Paul—who called himself the *worst* of sinners—He can certainly use you. However, we must caution you: your desire to help others must be rooted in *humility* and *repentance*, not in glorifying the past or excusing the sin. The focus must always be on Christ’s power to deliver, not on the details of the sin itself. *"Let him who boasts boast in the Lord"* (1 Corinthians 1:31).
Before you step into this ministry, we urge you to seek accountability with mature believers who can guide you in wisdom. Confess any lingering shame or pride to the Lord, for *"he who conceals his sins doesn’t prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy"* (Proverbs 28:13). Ask God to purify your motives—are you seeking to serve Him, or are you still wrestling with guilt, a need for validation, or even a subtle attachment to the identity of your past? *"Search me, God, and know my heart. Try me, and know my thoughts. See if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the everlasting way"* (Psalm 139:23-24).
As for those who may judge you, remember: *"There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus"* (Romans 8:1). The opinions of man cannot override the forgiveness of God. If people reject your testimony because of your past, it is their loss—not a reflection of your worth in Christ. *"But even if our Good News is veiled, it is veiled in those who are dying, in whom the god of this world has blinded the minds of the unbelieving, that the light of the Good News of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God, should not dawn on them"* (2 Corinthians 4:3-4). Your role is to obey God, not to control how others respond.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this brother/sister before You, thanking You that You have delivered them from the snare of adultery and abuse. Lord, You alone see the depths of their heart—every wound, every regret, every flicker of fear. We ask that You would cleanse them anew by the blood of Jesus, removing any lingering shame or bondage tied to their past. Fill them with Your Holy Spirit, that their words and actions would be led by You alone, not by human wisdom or the fear of man.
Father, if there is any area where they have not fully surrendered this season of their life to You—any hidden pride, any unconfessed sin, any bitterness—we pray You would reveal it and grant them the courage to repent. Guard their heart from the enemy’s lies that would tell them they are unworthy or that their past disqualifies them. Remind them that You specialize in redeeming broken vessels for Your glory.
As they seek to help others trapped in similar sins, give them divine discernment. Let their story always point to Your mercy, never to the allure of sin. Surround them with godly counsel, that they would not walk this path alone. And for those who would judge them, we pray You would soften hearts or, if necessary, silence the voices of scorn, that Your will alone would prevail.
Most of all, Lord, we ask that You would deepen their love for Your Word and their dependence on You. Let them find their identity in Christ alone, not in their past or in the opinions of others. May they walk in the freedom You purchased for them, boldly proclaiming Your truth while clinging to the cross.
We rebuked any spirit of fear, shame, or self-righteousness in Jesus’ mighty name. Let the enemy be silenced, and let Your light shine through this life as a beacon of hope for the captives. We ask all this in the name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and King. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you: *"Don’t you know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit lives in you? If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him; for God’s temple is holy, which you are"* (1 Corinthians 3:16-17). Your body and your story now belong to Him. Walk in that truth, and trust Him to use you mightily—for His glory, not your own. If you have not already, we urge you to publicly testify of your faith in Christ, that others may know it is *His* power, not yours, that breaks chains. *"I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me"* (Philippians 4:13). Go forward in His strength.
We're here with you, friend, and we want you to know that your past doesn't define you. It's like a dark chapter in a book, but the story doesn't end there. Jesus has written a new chapter, a new beginning for you. We're not just saying this, it's in the Bible. In 2 Corinthians 5:17, it says, "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come."
We understand that it's scary to share your story, to open up about the pain and the mistakes of the past. But remember, you're not alone. Jesus is with you, and He's given you a purpose through it all. You've been through something terrible, yes, but you've come out on the other side. That's a powerful testimony.
We're not here to judge or condemn. We're here to lift you up, to encourage you, and to remind you that God loves you just as you are. He's forgiven you, and that's what matters most. The opinions of others, well, that's on them. You can't control that, and you don't have to. What you can control is your obedience to God and your willingness to let Him use you to help others.
Let's pray together, shall we? Father, we come before You today, thanking You for Your unfailing love and mercy. We lift up our friend, and we ask that You would continue to heal them, to fill them with Your Holy Spirit, and to guide them as they seek to help others. Give them courage, Lord, to face the fear and the shame that might still linger. Remind them that they are Your child, loved and cherished, and that their past doesn't define them. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
We understand that it's scary to share your story, to open up about the pain and the mistakes of the past. But remember, you're not alone. Jesus is with you, and He's given you a purpose through it all. You've been through something terrible, yes, but you've come out on the other side. That's a powerful testimony.
We're not here to judge or condemn. We're here to lift you up, to encourage you, and to remind you that God loves you just as you are. He's forgiven you, and that's what matters most. The opinions of others, well, that's on them. You can't control that, and you don't have to. What you can control is your obedience to God and your willingness to let Him use you to help others.
Let's pray together, shall we? Father, we come before You today, thanking You for Your unfailing love and mercy. We lift up our friend, and we ask that You would continue to heal them, to fill them with Your Holy Spirit, and to guide them as they seek to help others. Give them courage, Lord, to face the fear and the shame that might still linger. Remind them that they are Your child, loved and cherished, and that their past doesn't define them. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.
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