Adult daughter relationship with ### man
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We understand the deep concern and heartache you must feel as you watch your daughter pursue a relationship that is not aligned with God’s perfect will. The Scriptures are clear about the sanctity of marriage and the dangers of entangling ourselves in relationships that contradict God’s design. Your daughter’s involvement with this man—who was previously married and has young children—raises serious biblical concerns that must be addressed with love, truth, and urgency.
First, we must acknowledge that this relationship is built on unstable and ungodly ground. The Bible warns us in 2 Corinthians 6:14, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* While we do not know if this man is a believer, the circumstances alone—his recent divorce and the presence of young children—demand wisdom, caution, and a step back. Divorce is a painful and complex issue, and Scripture teaches that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) because it breaks the covenant He intended to be lifelong. For your daughter to pursue a man who is freshly divorced, especially with children involved, is to invite unnecessary pain, confusion, and potential sin into her life. This is not the path of wisdom or godliness.
Additionally, if this relationship involves any physical intimacy, it is fornication, which is explicitly condemned in 1 Corinthians 6:18: *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."* God’s design for intimacy is within the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman. Anything outside of that is sin, and it will bring spiritual, emotional, and sometimes physical consequences. If your daughter is not yet married to this man, she must flee from any temptation to compromise her purity. Her body is the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20), and she is called to honor God with it.
We also urge you to consider the impact of this relationship on the man’s children. Children of divorce are already vulnerable, and introducing a new romantic relationship so soon after their parents’ separation can cause deep confusion and pain. As believers, we are called to protect the innocent and act in love—not just for our own desires, but for the well-being of others, especially children (James 1:27). Your daughter’s actions could unintentionally harm these little ones, and that is not the heart of Christ.
Most importantly, this situation reveals a deeper spiritual issue: your daughter is not waiting on the Lord. She is taking matters into her own hands, trusting in her own desires rather than seeking God’s perfect will for her life. Psalm 37:4-5 tells us, *"Delight yourself also in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this."* But this promise is for those who *delight in the Lord first*—not those who chase after their own plans. If she is truly seeking God’s best, she must surrender this relationship to Him, repent of any sin, and trust that His timing and His choice for her will be far better than anything she could manufacture herself.
We also notice—and commend you—that your prayer is lifted up *in Jesus’ name*. This is vital, for Jesus Himself said in John 14:6, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."* And in John 16:23-24, He tells us, *"Most certainly I tell you, whatever you may ask of the Father in my name, he will give it to you. Until now, you have asked nothing in my name. Ask, and you will receive, that your joy may be made full."* There is power in the name of Jesus, and it is only through Him that we can approach the throne of God with our petitions. Your faith in praying in His name is a testament to your trust in Him, and we join you in that faith.
Now, let us pray together for your daughter:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy yet hopeful hearts, lifting up this precious daughter who has strayed from Your perfect path. Lord, we ask that You open her eyes to the dangers of this relationship—dangers that could bring heartache, sin, and lasting consequences. Convict her spirit, Holy Spirit, of any compromise, any disobedience, any trust in her own understanding rather than in You. Remind her that Your ways are higher than hers (Isaiah 55:9) and that Your plans for her are good, pleasing, and perfect (Romans 12:2).
Father, we rebuke the enemy’s lies that may be whispering to her that this man is her only option or that she must take control rather than wait on You. Break those chains of impatience and fear, and replace them with a deep, abiding trust in Your sovereignty. Help her to see that any relationship built outside of Your will is like building a house on sand—it cannot stand (Matthew 7:26-27).
We pray for the man involved as well, Lord. Soften his heart to Your truth. If he is not walking with You, draw him to repentance and faith in Christ. If he is a believer, convict him of any sin in his life and guide him to make decisions that honor You, especially as a father. Protect his children, Lord, from further pain and confusion. Surround them with Your peace and provision.
Most of all, Father, we ask that You would turn your daughter’s heart back to You. Let her find her satisfaction in You alone, so that she is not desperate for the affection of a man but is fully content in Your love. Help her to wait on You, to trust in Your timing, and to believe that You have a godly husband prepared for her if that is Your will. Give her the strength to walk away from this relationship, even if it is painful, knowing that obedience to You brings life and peace.
We declare over her the promise of Psalm 32:8: *"I will instruct you and teach you in the way which you shall go. I will counsel you with my eye on you."* Let her hear Your voice clearly, Lord, and give her the courage to obey.
Finally, we pray for this family—for wisdom, unity, and grace as you navigate this difficult season. Give you the words to speak to your daughter in love and truth, and let her see Your heart through you. May this trial draw your family closer to You and to one another.
We ask all these things in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Stand firm in your faith, and do not grow weary in praying for her. Continue to speak truth in love, and trust that the Lord is working even when you cannot see it. He is faithful, and He will complete the good work He has begun in your daughter (Philippians 1:6). Keep pointing her to Christ, reminding her that His love is better than life (Psalm 63:3) and that His plans for her are worth waiting for. If she is resistant, do not despair—keep praying, keep loving, and keep trusting God to move in her heart. He is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all we could ask or think (Ephesians 3:20).
First, we must acknowledge that this relationship is built on unstable and ungodly ground. The Bible warns us in 2 Corinthians 6:14, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* While we do not know if this man is a believer, the circumstances alone—his recent divorce and the presence of young children—demand wisdom, caution, and a step back. Divorce is a painful and complex issue, and Scripture teaches that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) because it breaks the covenant He intended to be lifelong. For your daughter to pursue a man who is freshly divorced, especially with children involved, is to invite unnecessary pain, confusion, and potential sin into her life. This is not the path of wisdom or godliness.
Additionally, if this relationship involves any physical intimacy, it is fornication, which is explicitly condemned in 1 Corinthians 6:18: *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."* God’s design for intimacy is within the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman. Anything outside of that is sin, and it will bring spiritual, emotional, and sometimes physical consequences. If your daughter is not yet married to this man, she must flee from any temptation to compromise her purity. Her body is the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20), and she is called to honor God with it.
We also urge you to consider the impact of this relationship on the man’s children. Children of divorce are already vulnerable, and introducing a new romantic relationship so soon after their parents’ separation can cause deep confusion and pain. As believers, we are called to protect the innocent and act in love—not just for our own desires, but for the well-being of others, especially children (James 1:27). Your daughter’s actions could unintentionally harm these little ones, and that is not the heart of Christ.
Most importantly, this situation reveals a deeper spiritual issue: your daughter is not waiting on the Lord. She is taking matters into her own hands, trusting in her own desires rather than seeking God’s perfect will for her life. Psalm 37:4-5 tells us, *"Delight yourself also in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this."* But this promise is for those who *delight in the Lord first*—not those who chase after their own plans. If she is truly seeking God’s best, she must surrender this relationship to Him, repent of any sin, and trust that His timing and His choice for her will be far better than anything she could manufacture herself.
We also notice—and commend you—that your prayer is lifted up *in Jesus’ name*. This is vital, for Jesus Himself said in John 14:6, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."* And in John 16:23-24, He tells us, *"Most certainly I tell you, whatever you may ask of the Father in my name, he will give it to you. Until now, you have asked nothing in my name. Ask, and you will receive, that your joy may be made full."* There is power in the name of Jesus, and it is only through Him that we can approach the throne of God with our petitions. Your faith in praying in His name is a testament to your trust in Him, and we join you in that faith.
Now, let us pray together for your daughter:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy yet hopeful hearts, lifting up this precious daughter who has strayed from Your perfect path. Lord, we ask that You open her eyes to the dangers of this relationship—dangers that could bring heartache, sin, and lasting consequences. Convict her spirit, Holy Spirit, of any compromise, any disobedience, any trust in her own understanding rather than in You. Remind her that Your ways are higher than hers (Isaiah 55:9) and that Your plans for her are good, pleasing, and perfect (Romans 12:2).
Father, we rebuke the enemy’s lies that may be whispering to her that this man is her only option or that she must take control rather than wait on You. Break those chains of impatience and fear, and replace them with a deep, abiding trust in Your sovereignty. Help her to see that any relationship built outside of Your will is like building a house on sand—it cannot stand (Matthew 7:26-27).
We pray for the man involved as well, Lord. Soften his heart to Your truth. If he is not walking with You, draw him to repentance and faith in Christ. If he is a believer, convict him of any sin in his life and guide him to make decisions that honor You, especially as a father. Protect his children, Lord, from further pain and confusion. Surround them with Your peace and provision.
Most of all, Father, we ask that You would turn your daughter’s heart back to You. Let her find her satisfaction in You alone, so that she is not desperate for the affection of a man but is fully content in Your love. Help her to wait on You, to trust in Your timing, and to believe that You have a godly husband prepared for her if that is Your will. Give her the strength to walk away from this relationship, even if it is painful, knowing that obedience to You brings life and peace.
We declare over her the promise of Psalm 32:8: *"I will instruct you and teach you in the way which you shall go. I will counsel you with my eye on you."* Let her hear Your voice clearly, Lord, and give her the courage to obey.
Finally, we pray for this family—for wisdom, unity, and grace as you navigate this difficult season. Give you the words to speak to your daughter in love and truth, and let her see Your heart through you. May this trial draw your family closer to You and to one another.
We ask all these things in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Stand firm in your faith, and do not grow weary in praying for her. Continue to speak truth in love, and trust that the Lord is working even when you cannot see it. He is faithful, and He will complete the good work He has begun in your daughter (Philippians 1:6). Keep pointing her to Christ, reminding her that His love is better than life (Psalm 63:3) and that His plans for her are worth waiting for. If she is resistant, do not despair—keep praying, keep loving, and keep trusting God to move in her heart. He is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all we could ask or think (Ephesians 3:20).
We're right there with you, praying for your daughter's heart to be turned back to the Lord. It's tough to watch someone we love make choices that aren't aligned with God's will, but we know that our Heavenly Father is faithful and His love never fails. Let's keep reminding her, and each other, of these truths:
"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths." - Proverbs 3:5-6
"Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart." - Psalm 37:4
"For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." - Jeremiah 29:11
Let's keep praying, keep trusting, and keep loving. God is at work, even when we can't see it. He's got this, and He's got your daughter.
"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths." - Proverbs 3:5-6
"Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart." - Psalm 37:4
"For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." - Jeremiah 29:11
Let's keep praying, keep trusting, and keep loving. God is at work, even when we can't see it. He's got this, and He's got your daughter.
Praying for this request in Jesus Name.
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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