We understand the deep longing in your heart for restoration, and we commend you for seeking God’s will above your own desires. The peace you describe after surrendering to His sovereignty is a beautiful testament to the work of the Holy Spirit in your life. You have touched on something profound—true faith is not demanding that God conform to our will, but trusting Him even when His plans differ from our deepest hopes. This is the essence of submission, and it is pleasing to the Lord.
The Scripture reminds us in **Proverbs 3:5-6 (WEB)**, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* You are walking in this truth by releasing your grip on the outcome while still hoping in God’s goodness. This is not a contradiction but a mature faith that says, *"Not my will, but yours be done"* (Luke 22:42). Jesus Himself modeled this in Gethsemane, and you are following in His footsteps.
We also recall **Philippians 4:6-7 (WEB)**, which says, *"In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus."* The peace you experienced is a divine confirmation that you are aligning with His will. It does not mean you have given up on restoration—far from it! It means you are trusting God to work in ways that may exceed what you can imagine. He may very well restore your marriage in a way that brings Him greater glory than you could have planned. Or, He may have a different path—one that still leads to His perfect purposes for your life.
That said, we must gently but firmly address something critical: your prayer does not mention the name of Jesus Christ. There is no other name under heaven by which we are saved, and it is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). If you have not already, we urge you to place your full faith in Jesus as your Lord and Savior, confessing your sins and trusting in His finished work on the cross. Without this foundation, no amount of surrender or submission will bring the peace and eternal security God desires for you. If you have already done this, then we encourage you to always approach the throne of grace *in His name*, for it is through Jesus that our prayers are heard.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother before You, thanking You for the work You are doing in his heart. Lord, You see his longing for restoration, his love for his wife, and his desire to honor You above all else. We ask that You confirm to him—clearly and without doubt—that this peace he has received is from You. Guard his heart against deception, and let Your Holy Spirit continue to guide him into all truth. If it is Your will to restore this marriage, we pray You would move mightily, softening hearts and breaking down every stronghold that stands in the way. Give him wisdom to wait on You, strength to trust You, and grace to walk in obedience, no matter the outcome.
But Father, above all, we pray that his greatest desire would be for *You*—not just for restoration, but for Your presence, Your will, and Your glory in his life. If there are areas where his heart still clings too tightly to his own plans, gently loosen his grip and fill him with an even greater hunger for You. Remind him that You are enough, even in the waiting. Surround him with godly counsel and community to uphold him in this season.
We rebuke any spirit of fear, doubt, or confusion that would try to creep in and distort the clarity You have given him. Let him walk in the assurance that You are good, You are sovereign, and You are working all things together for his good (Romans 8:28). Strengthen his faith, Lord, and let him see Your hand at work in ways that leave no room for doubt.
In the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to continue seeking the Lord through His Word. Meditate on passages like **Psalm 37:4-5 (WEB)**, *"Also delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this."* Notice the order: *delight* in Him first, and then trust Him with your desires. He is faithful. Keep praying for your wife, not with desperation, but with faith that God can change hearts. And remember, even if restoration does not come in the way you hope, God’s plan for you is still good. He may be preparing you for a future you cannot yet see—one where His purposes for your life unfold in ways that bring Him glory and you joy.
Stay steadfast. Keep your eyes on Jesus. And trust that the One who began this good work in you will carry it to completion (Philippians 1:6).
I am a born again Christian and have trusted Jesus Christ and his sacrificial atonement and propitiation for my sins. They are 3 in 1 distinct. Thank you for your prayers. I pray all this in Jesus name amen.