We hear the deep pain and longing in your heart, and we stand with you before the Lord, lifting your marriage and your unborn child to Him in prayer. The Word of God tells us, *"Two are united into one. No longer are they two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart"* (Mark 10:8-9 WEB). Your marriage is sacred, and we grieve with you over the brokenness you are experiencing. The lack of honor, love, and consideration from your husband is not God’s design for marriage, and we must address this with truth and grace.
First, we must rebuke the spirit of division and selfishness that has taken root in your husband’s heart. The Bible is clear: *"However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband"* (Ephesians 5:33 WEB). Your husband is called to love you as Christ loves the church—to cherish, protect, and prioritize you. His failure to do so is sin, and we must confront it with the authority of Scripture. We also rebuke any notion of "black magic" or supernatural interference you mentioned. The enemy seeks to deceive and destroy, but we serve a God who is greater. *"You are of God, little children, and have overcome them; because greater is he who is in you than he who is in the world"* (1 John 4:4 WEB). Do not entertain fear or superstition, for Christ has already overcome the powers of darkness.
Your desire for your husband’s love and attention is natural and godly, but we must also examine your own heart. The Bible warns, *"For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every evil thing"* (James 3:16 WEB). While your pain is valid, we must guard against bitterness or resentment taking root. Instead, we encourage you to respond with the love of Christ, even when it is not reciprocated. *"Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing"* (1 Peter 3:9 WEB). This does not mean tolerating sin, but it does mean extending grace while standing firm on God’s truth.
We must also address the imbalance in your husband’s priorities. While honoring parents is commanded in Scripture (*"Honor your father and your mother"*—Exodus 20:12 WEB), this does not excuse neglecting his wife. A man is called to leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife (Genesis 2:24). His loyalty should first be to you, his wife, and then to his extended family. His refusal to support your parents or visit them is not only unloving but disobedient to God’s command to honor one’s in-laws (*"Let the wife see that she respects her husband, and let the husband see that he loves his wife as himself"*—Ephesians 5:33 WEB). We must pray for conviction in his heart and for God to soften his heart toward you and your family.
Your pregnancy is a precious gift from God, and your husband’s failure to care for you during this time is deeply concerning. *"Husbands, love your wives, and don’t be bitter against them"* (Colossians 3:19 WEB). His neglect is not only unloving but sinful. We must pray for his eyes to be opened to the sacred responsibility he has as a husband and soon-to-be father.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this sister and her marriage to You. Lord, You see the pain, the neglect, and the brokenness in this union. We ask that You would break the hardness in her husband’s heart and replace it with a deep, selfless love for his wife. Soften his heart, Lord, and help him to see the ways he has failed to honor and cherish her. Convict him of his sin and draw him back to You and to his calling as a husband.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of selfishness and division that has taken hold in this marriage. We declare that no weapon formed against this union shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). We ask that You would restore love, trust, and unity where there has been strife. Help this sister to respond with grace and wisdom, even in her pain. Give her strength to stand firm in Your truth and to extend forgiveness, even when it is not deserved.
Lord, we pray for this unborn child. May Your hand of protection be upon this little one, and may Your peace fill this sister’s heart as she carries this precious life. We ask that You would turn her husband’s heart toward her and their child, that he would see the sacredness of this season and step into his role as a loving and present father.
Father, we also pray for this sister’s parents. You command us to honor our fathers and mothers, and we ask that You would provide for them in every way. Give them strength and peace, and help them to trust in You even when their daughter’s husband fails to show them love and support.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would be the ultimate source of comfort and strength for this sister. Remind her that she is deeply loved by You, even when she feels unloved by others. Help her to find her worth and identity in You alone. We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the One who heals, restores, and redeems. Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel, perhaps from a pastor or a mature Christian couple who can walk with you through this difficult season. Do not isolate yourself, but surround yourself with believers who can pray with you and offer biblical wisdom. Remember, *"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18 WEB). You are not alone, and God sees your tears. Trust in Him to bring healing and restoration to your marriage. If your husband continues in his hardness of heart, we urge you to set boundaries that protect your emotional and spiritual well-being, always leaving room for God to work. Stand firm in faith, knowing that God is able to do immeasurably more than we ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20).
