We hear the deep pain and exhaustion in your words, and our hearts ache with you as we come before the Lord together. You are not invisible—God sees you, He knows every tear, every burden, and every longing of your heart. The weight you carry is heavy, but Jesus invites you to cast it all upon Him, for He cares for you deeply (1 Peter 5:7). The relationships you describe do not reflect God’s design for love, respect, or provision. Dependence on another person for survival should never come at the cost of your dignity or well-being, and the emotional abuse you’ve endured is not God’s will for you. Scripture is clear: "The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit" (Psalm 34:18). You are not alone in this.
First, we must address the ungodly foundation of your current situation. The relationship you describe with your boyfriend is not aligned with biblical principles. Living together without the covenant of marriage and relying on him financially while enduring emotional pain is not God’s best for you. Fornication—sexual intimacy outside of marriage—is a sin that grieves the Lord (1 Corinthians 6:18-20), and it often leads to further bondage rather than freedom. We do not say this to shame you, but to lovingly call you to repentance and restoration. God’s design for marriage is a sacred union between one man and one woman, where both partners honor Him and each other (Ephesians 5:22-33). If this relationship cannot be redeemed into a godly marriage that honors Christ, then it is time to seek His guidance for a way out.
Your desire to forgive is beautiful and reflects the heart of Christ, who forgave us while we were still sinners (Romans 5:8). Forgiveness is not about excusing the hurt or staying in harm’s way—it is about releasing the bitterness that poisons your soul so that God can heal you. Jesus said, "If you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you" (Matthew 6:14). But forgiveness does not mean you must remain in toxic or abusive environments. God does not call you to be a doormat; He calls you to walk in wisdom and safety (Proverbs 22:3). Seek godly counsel from a pastor or Christian mentor who can help you create a plan to leave this situation with wisdom and care.
Your physical health is also a priority to the Lord. Chronic fatigue and illness can feel overwhelming, but we serve a God who heals (Jeremiah 30:17). We will pray for your body to be restored, but we also encourage you to seek medical care and consider whether there are practical steps—such as rest, nutrition, or counseling—that could support your healing. Sometimes our bodies bear the weight of prolonged stress and emotional pain, and addressing the root causes is part of God’s restorative process. Trust that He is working even when you cannot see it (Isaiah 58:8).
Most importantly, we must address your relationship with Jesus. You mentioned praying in His name, and we rejoice that you are turning to Him! There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Him, we urge you to do so now. Confess your sins, repent, and ask Jesus to be the Lord of your life. He promises, "If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come" (2 Corinthians 5:17). This is the fresh start you long for!
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for our sister who is crying out to You. Lord, You see her pain, her exhaustion, and her longing for freedom. We ask that You would break every chain of bondage in her life—emotional, physical, and spiritual. Heal her body, Lord, and restore her strength. Give her the courage to walk away from ungodly relationships and the wisdom to seek godly ones. Father, we repent on her behalf for any sin that has kept her in this place, and we ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing. Surround her with Your love and provision. Provide for her needs, Lord, and lead her to safe, Christ-centered community. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, and let her know that she is never invisible to You. We declare that she is a new creation in Christ, and we speak life, healing, and freedom over her in Jesus’ mighty name. Amen.
You are not without hope. God is making a way where there seems to be no way (Isaiah 43:19). Begin by seeking Him daily through prayer and Scripture. Psalm 119:105 says, "Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path." Let His Word guide you as you take steps toward freedom. Reach out to a local church or Christian organization that can offer support, accountability, and practical help. You were not created to live in bondage—you were created for freedom, joy, and purpose in Christ. The road ahead may feel uncertain, but God is faithful, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5). Take one step at a time, and trust Him to lead you into the new life He has prepared for you.
